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@Shzeah, he's doubly courageous for standing by and keeping the baby in the first place. The child won't have a normal life, will require constant aid and never be able to achieve what other kids can. But it's still a human being and deserves the compassion from others. For this father to realize such adversity and still stay, than he's a true man of integrity.
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As a father of a child with Down syndrome I can tell you with my whole heart and soul that the greatest joy I ever receive in life is watching the smile on my son's face. I am fortunate enough that my wife not only stayed but has devoted herself, as I have, to raising our son in the best possible way. He is the greatest blessing I have ever received and he brings everyone around him unspeakable joy!
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Ok- I'm saying this from a purely cultural view. In some countries a child with genetic disruptions brings shame to the family. Could this woman be a loser? Yes. Could she also be constrained by cultural norms? Yes. Could it be postpartum depression (the single most painful thing I've ever experienced)? Oh Dear Lord yes.
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@SchroedingerPussPuss, I would like to have everyone get on netflix and watch Season 2, Episode 4 of "Call the Midwife". This exact situation occurs where a mother can't bond with her new son who has spina bifida. Postpartum + disappointment rattles her and she thinks of giving her child to a home. It's an incredibly moving episode.
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No one seems to think of the long term. I watched & lived with my grandmother bringing up a downs (my uncle). He died at 60. Still needed to be bathed & helped with toileting. My nan was struggling with this 6ft "baby" at 85+yrs old. She would cry & pray he died first. I couldn't live like my grandparents did. I don't judge this woman.
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@SchroedingerPussPuss, from what I read she going back to her home where children with Down syndrome are looked down on and she didn't think he'd be happy there. That said, I would have chose my kid over going home. But you're right, culture seemed to play a role if you believe what was being claimed.
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I love the story, but why is it so surprising to see a man care about his child... Its as much his baby as it should have been hers. Why is this even news? I feel as though people don't think of fathers as having any part in the child if it werent for marriage which is totally ridiculous... Its his flesh and blood. Why is it so crazy that he would want to keep it?
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@Fembot, divorce rate for parents of special needs kids is higher than average (which already high in the US it seems). But when the mom chooses to keep the child it's like people go "it's just another dad walking out" but when it's the mom "oh god! This is horrible! What a bitch!" I think people just have this idea in their head that moms stay with the kids and dad leaves. It isn't always accurate though
His wife had to go back to her home on whore Island