Parents who use this excuse always bother me. "Autistic" or not you need to teach your kids to learn some respect. I worked with the special ed kids in my highschool and they were really sweet and awesome and they at least had the basic understandings of what's okay and what's not. Sorry not sorry for the long post. I'll probably be downvoted into oblivion for this, but yeah.
@OneHellOfAButler, *...endorses message via upvote*
@Murderin Mike, Thank you, darling😙
@OneHellOfAButler, yeah, I had an autistic kid in my high school and he was really cool. Not what you would think though, he wasn't dumb. Mentally disabled, however, is the kind that have trouble with speeking, learning, thinking, etc.
@OneHellOfAButler, what's sad about it is when autistic kids know what to do and are good kids but have those moments where they're overwhelmed and can't help but "inconvenience" the people around them so random snobby strangers ridicule the parents and the child for something they can't always control
@lakewood20, Yeah, that's the part that really sucks. I knew one kid who was like this and he was struggling really badly with the way people looked at him and talked to him. He got better over the years, but that's the part that really makes me sad. Not for him- just sad at people in general.
@OneHellOfAButler, Sorry but are you for real. My 3yo girl has autism and she hits herself in the head when she's not allowed her own way so how do you think it goes having to keep her line in public? I don't let her get away with bad behaviour so not well. Maybe instead of judging the parent offering an apology you should try a little patience to those who maybe don't know how to be respectful and instead of demanding they see things your way you should try and see theirs.
@Special Agent Gibbs, I'm sorry if I've offended you. I've never met your daughter and even the kids I've dealt with (most of whom were older than me btw) I never necessarily "hung out" with them after school. I grew up in an area where a lot of parents would (quite obviously and obnoxiously) just say something like that as an excuse, not an apology. I was only going off of my own experience, just as you have your own experiences. I'm sorry if I seemed rude, I didn't mean to come off that way.
@OneHellOfAButler, No we're cool I just don't know how anyone could use it as excuse if its not genuine. Only makes it harder for parents who are already trying to teach their children how to control their emotions. That's why the whole 'You should teach them respect', 'You should do this' attitude is a little hard to take.
@Special Agent Gibbs, true, some autistic children have less self control than others, but that doesn't mean that they can just be allowed to act out and expect everyone to allow that. My boyfriend has asperges and he is already in his 30, he still has the occasional meltdowns, just like when he was a child, but his mother and I have to be ready to act as a buffer and remove him from situations if necessary.
@Special Agent Gibbs, I grew up in Boca Raton, Fl so a lot of the people over there are the snooty rich type who- even if their kid's not autistic- will just leave their kids at home while they go party until 3 in the morning (I know, I've babysat for tons of them). I moved to Texas almost exactly two years ago and even now it's still kind of a shock to me to see so many parents caring a lot about their children's wellbeing. So, again, I'm sorry. I should have thought about the feelings of parents like you- the ones who actually seem to care. You were absolutely right, I should have thought more about my original comment before posting it.
@OneHellOfAButler, that's how some special Ed kids end up so arrogant and bratty, they're parents let them do whatever and get away with everything
@mayora13, I get that and I'm not saying that either. Just saying most autism parents dread public trips for fear of explaining to onlookers why the situation is arising - the whole teach your child respect thing is the reason why and doesn't help anything at all. And if anything more people need to be educated to recognise what they see seeing and show a little respect and understanding back.
@OneHellOfAButler, my sister had severe autism & she knows basic manners & she doesn't talk much
@OneHellOfAButler, my only regret is that I have only one upvote to give
@OneHellOfAButler, did you work with the special ed kids while you were a student? that's pretty cool
@OneHellOfAButler, you.... I like you. Have an upvote!
@The Sign Man, Yeah, it was this program called Circle of Friends where you could work and talk with them.
@OneHellOfAButler, as someone with an Autism Spectrum Disorder, I approve of this message.
@CynicalSir, Now I'm a little sorry.
@OneHellOfAButler, I was with you until you said sorry not sorry. Choose one. Other than that, a good post.
@EpicBanana91, most of those with autism are incredibly smart
@OneHellOfAButler, You're absolutely right. My little cousin is autistic, and she is the sweetest little thing I've ever seen. The only discipline problems she has stem from her grandparents whom take care of her spoil her, so she throws tantrums when she can't have something she wants; but then again, so do most kids.
@OneHellOfAButler, as an older sibling of and former counselor for kids with developmental disabilities, you're absolutely right. These kids are fully capable of understanding boundaries, and we're not helping them at all if we appease them when they clearly step out of line. The most well-adjusted adults with developmental disabilities I know (who also happen to be the only employed ones I know) are those who had attentive and compassionate but unyielding parents.
@OneHellOfAButler, as you can probably tell from my user I'm autistic I'm more high functioning than some other people I know with autism but I agree that you shouldn't use your disability as an excuse for everything it's important to find a way to almost work around it, know what I mean?
@angrydwarf, well THANKS
@OneHellOfAButler, Im autistic and I respect this message
@SpecialAutisicgirl, I know what you mean. My little cousin (he just turned 13 recently) is autistic and it's hard for him to learn, but that doesn't stop him from studying and trying all the time. He could just say "fvck it, I'm autistic I have an excuse" but he doesn't. And even though he still gets fairly poor grades, he tries, and I find that unless they're being spoiled rotten and not made to do anything by their parents/guardians/teachers, most autistic and special ed kids will try their best.
@OneHellOfAButler, what part of Texas do you live in? I'm originally from Houston although I live in San Antonio now
@Sexy Homunculus, Right now I live in Flower Mound, but I'm moving back to Florida over the summer so I can start college there in the fall.
@OneHellOfAButler, nice. Have you visited the Funimation studio? I've met a lot of the voice actors who work there, I've just never actually been there myself
@Sexy Homunculus, I have! It's actually pretty cool, there's signed/unsigned posters of different animes on almost all of the walls and there's a huge statue in one of the rooms of the Elric brothers. They were dubbing an earlier episode of Attack On Titan while I was there, so I got to meet the voice actor of Armin. Pretty neet, but I only ever went the one time.
@OneHellOfAButler, I will apologize and say he's autistic to explain to someone he didn't mean any harm. But then you correct the child. You don't just give in.
Don't make excuses for your kids
@Deer Jesus, especially when they're bullshjt excuses
I like to tell those kids "you know... I can push a lot harder than you can". And then look their parents right in the eye.
You're right he's just an âsshat
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Autistic kids can still be taught social skills, it's just harder for them.
"I'll stop saying it once you stop being a little prick"
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@pickleSquid, must have happened.