Hey, so this is unrelated to this picture, but I really need advice. Last night I asked a girl out that I have a crush on, and she said yes. We have a date tonight at a sushi place. I have literally never been in a relationship before and am pretty awkward. So is she in some ways, but I don't want to mess things up. Any advice on how to handle a first date?
@Radically Irrational, act normal and don't be an idiot. Don't be afraid to make the first move, either
@Radically Irrational, literally just breath and dont phych yourself out. Take a breath and say out loud (probably alone) "my name is (insert your name) and I have control of my life, and I deserve this". That always calms me down and makes me focus. During the date just be youself. She said yes to you for a reason because youre a great person and shes going to love you for you.
@Radically Irrational, follow this rule of thumb.
In an awkward situation, just say abything that can lead to conversation. it'll feel awkward and you'll feel like you shouldn't say anything, but ignore those feelings, becuase she will secretly be so happy you are filling the silence.
Be yourself. Be a gentleman (open door for her, etc.) But also be casual, calm and collected. Don't worry about making the date fun. If you relax, the fun will come naturally.
@Radically Irrational, your going to be awkward. So is she. Have fun with it. It might work out, it might not. But have fun on THIS one date regardless.
@Radically Irrational, Just be yourself, that's why she said yes dude, don't be someone your not. Easy as that.
@Radically Irrational, dont bring flowers on a first date, it comes off too strong. If you want, bring one single flower or to change it up, bring a cactus (goofy and a good conversation starter). If shes on the shy side, try holding off on the first kiss until the second or third date. Otherwise, if you both already know each other, go with the flow, have light convos and get to know each others family dynamics and if you have any deal breakers, try to lightly work it into the conversation. You dont wanna get head-over-heels for someone then find out months later about a deal-breaker. Makes it harder to leave.
@Radically Irrational, also, don't act like a douche. Women don't like men that treat them like shjt.
@Radically Irrational, don't touch her boob girls don't usually like that on the first date
@Radically Irrational, try not to freak yourself out with the mantra of "this is a DATE! *dim dum duuuum*" and rather think of the two of you just going out and having fun together. Being friends and enjoying doing stuff together is the first step in a relationship and if you're less focused on the success/fail stigma we put on "DATES! *dim dim duuuum*" you'll be more yourself and chemistry will come naturally. FP is rooting for you!
@Radically Irrational, I'm with wicked... You really need to be yourself. What you don't want is a relationship based on acting like someone you're not. Be gentleman, but be yourself 👍 I always thought I wouldn't be able to be completely myself with someone, but I've been married for a little over 2 years now! Be yourself and you WILL find the perfect person for you.
@PunnyBaker, Yesterday she brought me a couple of meme-Valentine's day cards (One was a picture of Hitler with the caption "Be mein"), she got me my favorite drink, and made a dick out of those bendy fuzzy sticks. I didn't really think anything of it because I tend to expect it's just a friendly gesture, but she told me after I asked her out that she likes me. So would it be bad of me to bring her something like chocolate or her favorite candy? Not anything big like a $50 box of chocolates, but some assorted chocolates or something. Too much in this context?
@Radically Irrational, avoid saying yolo, swag, or cash me ousside otherwise the father may appear out of thin air like a genie and end the date.
@Radically Irrational, Funny pics community, the love adviser
@Radically Irrational, oh boi if we are asking for relationship advice I'll come back to this later but I have a great question/story
@Radically Irrational, DON'T BE AFRAID TO AT LEAST HUG HER! When you greet her give her a full embrace hug. The first mistake I made as a tall person was bending down to hug my short date. She wants your body against her body your hips against hers. Luckily I have an awesome fiancé and when we were dating she corrected my hugging. TAKING TOO LONG TO GET PHYSICAL IS THE NUMBER 1 REASON GUYS GET PUT IN THE FRIEND ZONE! My fiancé had me in the friend zone for years before we were officially together because I didn't make a move I was too afraid to kiss her! "Hey I had a great night I can't wait to do this again" *kiss*
@Radically Irrational, a lot of great advice here. Someone said don't worry about feeling awkward because you'll both feel awkward anyway. This is probably the best advice out of all the other things. Just know that you don't look as awkward as you feel and even if she doesn't look like she's feeling awkward, she probably is. Try to stay away from really intense topics like politics or something. Stick to the light subjects: interests, dislikes, hobbies etc. Even tho you want to keep conversation flowing, a little silence is ok and be sure you let her speak. Some people get so wrapped up in avoiding silence that they don't realize that they're doing all the talking. You've already gotten through the hardest part which is asking her to go on this date, it's all smooth sailing from there! Good luck
@Radically Irrational, Candy she likes would be perfect to bring. It shows you paid attention to what she likes but it's not over the top at all. Good luck! I hope you have fun and that you guys get along well! ..also, I'd like to just remind you that with all this is just a date. It's two people spending some time together to have a good time. If it goes well, fantastic! If not, hey, it was worth a shot, no worries. Best of luck to you friend :)
@Radically Irrational, be funny but not a clown.
@Radically Irrational, and tip well.
@Radically Irrational, saw just about everyone's advice. Very good. Bottom line, don't pretend you're something else. Girls hate lies about life. Well, everyone does. Don't be super open so that she'll feel like she will know everything about you after 2 dates, but don't be so closed off that she feels everything is a secret. Have fun kiddo, community got your back. And update us on how it goes!
@Radically Irrational, the first date is learning about each other and seeing if you're a fit. If it gets awkward, ask her something about herself. It can be "what do you like to do for fun?" Or ask about a common interest in how you know each other. Stem off questions from that, "what got you interested in that?" Etc. Fill it in with knowledge you have about the topic or with your opinion on the topic.
People love to talk about themselves, if she gives you short answers just pause and let her elaborate, or ask her to. Most importantly, just be genuine. It's OK if you blunder to say "sorry...You just make me really nervous" or say something like "ehhhh yea that was awkward sorry" and then laugh about it.
Good luck bud! Knock em dead :) remember you're just getting to know each other and see if it's a fit.
@Radically Irrational, sounds like you guys have a solid friendship so far--that's good! From a social aspect, don't treat it any differently. However, kind of like what you've seen so far from the other comments, don't be afraid to get closer than what is typically comfortable. That's what makes it fun--for both you and her!
Good luck man, and I'll be looking at FunnyPics tomorrow to see you tell us how it went!
@Radically Irrational, wear @ssless chaps
@Radically Irrational, just be yourself!! As a guy that married way over his head, you never know what the other person is looking for, so relax and have fun. If it doesn't work, that's ok, at least you have the confidence in yourself to know that you put yourself out there and didn't bend to someone's will or their likes. Trust me, later, those same quirks you accepted at first, will become what you hate about them!!!
@Radically Irrational, she sounds awesome lol. Memes = marriage. chocolates are probably still a little much. If she brings you goofy stuff like that or anything to do with memes, id say find a creative and goofy gift similar to those she gave you. A bouquet of dicks is probably a little to far but you get the idea.
@Radically Irrational, Haha I'm back with the story! So last night the girl that I've been seeing around alot became a thing. This wouldn't be bad but she's a really damaged person. I decided to give her a chance but it's kinda difficult (the first time I kissed her she had a panic attack) I'm not seeing the relationship lasting long just because I don't feel like there's much I can do to make her happy and she lacks some essential elements to be independently happy. I'm really worried she's going to use me to escape the fact that she has some things she needs to sort out on her own. Any advice?
@dwnzsnwlion, bail. Hard. You can't fix her and trying will make your life suck. You can be her friend but there are way more women, just find a better one.
@Radically Irrational, dude, how was it? I am kinda curious!
@Radically Irrational, Can we get an update? How'd it go? :)
@SCBeauty, The date went amazingly. I bought her her favorite candy, picked her up from work, took her to dinner, and we went to the beach afterwards and talked/cuddled for a couple hours, and she barely got home without her overly-conservative grandpa realizing she was NOT at her friend's house. Overall I don't think it could have gone better.
@Radically Irrational, it seems we have a downvote troll on our hands. All the comments in this thread have downvotes
@WickedStyx, For me, it shows Bandaiidz is the guy who downvoted my comments. Either way, best way to combat a downvote troll is to upvote all the victims. Free upvotes for everyone!
@Radically Irrational, it says that Bandaiidz downvoted me too. Free upvotes then
@WickedStyx, I literally scrolled down just to see if the troll had given up. I have no idea what your respective stories were. Hope the awkward kid had a nice date
@Radically Irrational, oh schiese it was you. My bad, hope you had a nice date.
@BigBlackBalls, Oh, yes, it went awesomely. I think I described how it went in a comment above, but as an update, I'm gunna go to the movies with her today on a date, then maybe hang out at my place afterwards considering it's been raining like all hell lately.
As a guy from Slovenia I feel proud that our national tv chanel got uploaded on this app. But I don't feel that proud of that jumper 😐
He may be dead
Strike a pose
Man you kids have it rough...in the 80s shizz was easy pizza beer boom.
Show her dank ass memes...try to stay off your phone...make eye contact...tell her she looks great...give her a flower so you dont get friendzoned...
When you think she's into you and you're about to make a move and she hits you with an "I love you buddy"