Talk about how much more focused he was on the other guy
You know own it's a two way street though right? She says something embarrassing about him and he could say something even worse.
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, well then she can just escalate it further with something worse than that. Plus if the guy was like "oh yeah it was so great!" And then changes his story later to make it embarrassing people will question it...
plus I feel like a guy being weird in bed is worse than a girl- I wouldn't care if a girl was barking like a seal while she came, but if there was a rumor one of my guy friends did that I'd never let them live it down
@ajr12100, you have a weak, closed mind. You could say she gave you an STD. Doesn't matter what she says you're like, she gives you an STD she'll never live that down.
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, but that just screws you over cause now you have an STD too... what man in his right mind would cripple his ability to ACTUALLY have sex with a girl for the sake of a rumour?
@ajr12100, you're a dumbass, not all STDs are permanent. You literally get a shot of penicillin and you're all set, meanwhile she has the reputation of being a slut
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, actually, all STDs are permanent. Hence the terminology "Sexually transmitted disease" if you're talking about STIs that's different. For example, HIV is an STD because you can't get rid of it. Syphilis is a STI because it is curable.
Edit: also, most STIs will eventually develop into STDs (when HPV causes cervical cancer it becomes an STD whereas just having HPV is an STI)
@ajr12100, also, I've never understood all the slut shaming
@ajr12100, a key that opens a lot of lock is called a master key, a lock that opens for a lot of keys is worthless.
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, haha that is clever. I've never heard that before, but I guess it does sum up the whole slut shaming mentality.
I've personally always thought of it more as "why sleep with a virgin who doesn't know what they're doing when you can get a girl that is amazing at sex" but I suppose I can see why not everyone thinks that way
@ajr12100, I don't sleep around so I really don't care what people do, if I do ever find someone that I want to spend my life together with I'd just prefer that a million other people hadn't been their before. Of course that's a hyperbole, but that's my thinking at least.
Hey guys, I really need some support here. So a month and a half ago, I met this really nice girl on my college's incoming freshman page (I'm incoming too of course). And we really hit it off, in two weeks we both find that we like each other. So this goes on for a while, lots of hours texting and video calling each other. Then, I decide to go to AX 2017 in Los Angeles (I'm from San Francisco) to meet her (using the convention as an excuse to go there).
@Otonashi Yuzuru, I arrive, and the first day (out of 4 days of he convention), me being a shy guy, I kinda was super awkward the whole day since I just met her. I'm the type of guy that needs a day to open up to someone, especially a girl. It was pretty awkward at the convention. But after, we head off into the city to checkout some things on my list. But get this, she brings along one of her guy friends and I essentially third wheel the 2. Guy and I barely have anything in common so it was hard to talk to him, so the rest of the day was just the two of them. Well, first day is kinda expected to be awkward right? But that night, she decides that it won't work out because of one day. Won't even give me the 3 other days I'm here to show her. We don't hangout for day 2 so I hungout with my friend. On the 3rd day she decides to give me a "chance", and I'm my normal self again and we hang out the whole day. Spending hours at the convention then heading off to the beach.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, Genuinely fun times. After we've both gone home late at night, I ask her if she changed her mind, says she did. She likes me, but doesn't think she's ready for a relationship. Fine, that's cool, I can wait since I really liked her. Next day, I try to ask questions to clarify, but she decided to change her mind. No chance of a relationship at all. Literally says that she likes me romantically, but doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. Of course I was angry, annoyed, and sad. I never yelled at her, or even cussed. I was just mad in general. Then she decides to cut off ties, not even friends anymore. The girl that has literally said before that she wishes I was there with her, or that she wants to do romantic things with me. Just leaves me right then and there. Crushing my heart, for what reason?
@Otonashi Yuzuru, I will never know. I will respect her decision to not want to be in a relationship with me, but to say that she still likes me nonetheless? That's fvcked. I put in all of this effort, essentially using my birthday (which is a month away) as an excuse to come all the way here. Now I know "just because I'm nice" doesn't mean I deserve a girlfriend. But this is on a whole nother scale. This girl crushed my heart, and I don't know why. Sorry, rant over, I needed to get this off my chest. It just hurt too much for a loner guy like me...
@Otonashi Yuzuru, ouch man. Yeah I kinda think you dodged a bullet with that one. Mean can you imagine if you tried to live together? That would be a nightmare. You'd have to book four wedding because she kept getting cold feet or worse, after honeymoon she'd drop a divorce! You got lucky my friend, the heart ache's gonna be around for a while, no lie, but you do not want that mess.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, I feel your pain friend, I just went through this exact same situation not too long ago, it got to the point where I could even see myself falling in love with the girl and out of nowhere she just stopped talking to me. Not even so much as a let's be friends, I need some time, nothing just flat out ignored. It's not worth the time to beat yourself down over it, just keep moving forward friend and if she decides to come back make her prove herself first.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, as much as it sucks right now, you need to face the fact that you are better off without her.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, Sambob's right. You dodged a bullet. She seems like a pain in the ass. If you were to be in a relationship, you would probably be treated horribly because she wants to be an annoying asshôle with her changing mind. And who is she to give you a "chance". She's a regular human being just like the rest of us. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Keep being yourself and you'll find the right one.
@Sambob, yeah I really did dodge a bullet there. It probably really would have been hell if she did decide to get together. I really could see those things happening lol. The heart ache really is setting in. I've never really experienced something like this before, and the worst part is, I still like her, when I really shouldn't...
@Drunken Octopus, oh man, that's equally as worse. Just like, sure if you don't wanna get in a relationship, fine by me. But guys are people too, and I think OUR feelings get overlooked too. None of this is worth getting sad over. But I guess you could say that I loved this girl, and part of me still does. If she does try to come back though, which is possible due to her constantly changing mind. I'm giving her hell.
@I Are Lebo, oh yeah, I definitely am. But I just can't help but still like her. It really makes my insides so confused.
@The guy with the gun, she really would be the type to constantly be changing her mind. I practically begged for that chance too. No way was I giving up after just one day. But I guess she was ready to lol. Thanks my man, I'll get through it somehow. I'll find "the one" eventually.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, this is a very common attitude, and an extremely harmful one. There isn't one person designated as a soulmate for each of us. For a relationship to be successful, both parties have to work at it. It takes effort and compromise to be happy with another person in the long term.
You don't love someone in spite of their faults. That type of settling leads to resentment.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, youve known her for a month and a half by your own admission. Wtf did you expect her to just get with you and stay with you forever? It didnt work out for her and she tried to let you down nicely by the look of it.
@I Are Lebo, yeah I know there isn't such a thing as actual "soulmates". Just figuratively that I will find someone that would fit me perfectly. It's about how many people I go through before I find something like you describe.
Second part though, well you just can't help but love someone despite their faults. Right now though, the Love still in me is something I don't want. I mean I can settle with someone with faults that I can handle easily, but of course some things have more weight than others.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, hey, I get it. I've been there. I was engaged once, and if I had followed through on that it would've been the biggest mistake of my life, and I once stole my parents car to take my grandmother out for lunch.
It's really, really hard to know when to let your logic rule or when to run with your emotions. The key is whether you love their flaws, or you love them in spite of their flaws. The former can be healthy, the latter is not.
Failure to understand the difference between love and lust is, I think, the biggest reason for today's enormous divorce rates. Lust fades. But love does too, if it isn't maintained and cared for.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, when I was in college, I lived your scenario a few times, and was just as insecure as you describe yourself. What I learned is that those kinds of girls are a waste of time. You need to get brave, assert yourself, and ask the next girl out with the specific intention of romance. I lost a couple friend girls that way, but they weren't substantial friendships to begin with. I ended up in a relationship that lasted 12 years because I decided to face my insecurities and just go for it.
The "I wish she was my girlfriend" friendships are doomed anyway because they will fade away when life takes you in different directions. They only last as long as your mutual circumstances keep you around each other. The only way to make them romantic is to go for it and insist on change. It will either work out, or she won't be your girlfriend anyway.
@I Are Lebo, whether I love their flaws, or love them in spite of their flaws. My previous relationship was based on the latter and it didn't end well. This time, it was the former, but it just didn't work out on her end I guess.
Oh yeah, I can tell the difference between love and lust when I think of someone. This girl was love, I really just wanted to be with her, anything else that came after was just a plus. I think for her, she just couldn't care to try, especially when she doesn't even know how it'd play out, even going as far as to say that she's probably making the wrong decision. Even when up until then, everything seemed to go smoothly. I'll learn from this and be prepared for the next woman that catches my feelings.
@JDPhi, she really was a waste of time, and I hate the part of me that still wants to be with her. After this, I'm going to be a lot more assertive, not skirting around the "friendzone" and hoping she makes the first move. The worst part of all this was that she had confirmed romantic feelings for me, yet nothing. Even if I don't have a relationship, this girl was like a bestfriend to me, but she just didn't return the same feelings. Thanks for sharing man. I've been following the tips you just gave me since a broke up with my girlfriend few months ago. Assertive and brave, never static. Just go for it.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, hey man, as that guy who did everything to stay with that type of girl for years it's not worth it. I dated a girl who was just like her for 4 years. She crushed my spirit and fundamentally changed who I am as a person. I don't know if you're very firmilar with me, but I can be a massive dick sometimes and I never used to be that way, that type of girl made me bitter, cold and lonely. In the end two weeks before our wedding and right after we moved cross country I walked in to her in bed with a guy who was in her class. I havent even hugged a female since then and trying to even get a date is an absolute joke. I know its tough dude but I'd move on. Unfortunately in college most girls are just like her, they put on a nice face but really only care about themselves.
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, oh man, that really is tragic. That's probably what might have happened to me if this relationship kept going. It really was good that she shut me down, no matter how much it hurt. I guess she at least knows what might happen, but it still was a huge heart ache. I really feel myself steering towards that bitter and coldness right now, but I have guys like you in the Funnypics community, and of course my close friends. I actually used to be like that before my first and so far only relationship. Super cold attitude towards woman, and just lonely. My last relationship was emotionally abusive, but we at least left on good terms and I left happier. That's probably gonna be me for a bit, but I know I'll move on eventually. Depending on whether that takes days, weeks, months, years, we'll see, but I'll get through it, we'll get through it my man. I wish both of us good fortune in the future. And hopefully I can find someone that does work for me in college. If not, fine
@Otonashi Yuzuru, that's a good way of thinking about it man, just stay positive that's the key. This one didn't work out, but maybe it's a sing that someone better is on the way, who really know? The best advice I can give you man is that college is what you make it, you're free to be whoever you want and do whatever you want, just enjoy it. Don't get caught up in bs and just have fun. My relationship was abusive as well, but did not by any means end in good terms. I just can't shake the feeling that she was my dream girl even if she never really cared about me. I'm just not even sure how to continue after this one haha it really made me antisocial.
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, yup, college is however you make it to. I'm gonna continue to be my crazy, memeing, weeaboo self. And if that's how I find a girl, hell yeah. I feel the same way as you, I really cared for her, and we spent so much heartfelt time talking to each other. But it was for naught. My advice for myself has always been to keep on trucking, even if you really wanna swerve off a cliff or something like that. I assume you have good friends to get you through things at least? Without mine, I might be over a cliff right now lol. Gotta keep it up man, you got this.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, that's a great philosophy man. Unfortunately I don't really have friends to help but I don't really have anyone to blame but myself. In those 4 years I basically pushed every one else away because they tried to stop me from going down that bad path, but as usual when in love you refuse to listen and acknowledge what's going on. Like I said I moved, and now I live 400 miles form anyone who I'm remotely close to. It's alright though, my social and love lives may be a mess, but I'd have to say the rest of my life is going pretty well, I've got a few successful businesses that I've kinda just made my whole life.
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, honestly though, good friends would have stuck with you. Well, you always have to restart I guess, and at least you're finally off that bad path. If you ever need a friend or someone to talk to dude, I can give you my FB or something. Good thing you turned your life around. Businesses to keep you busy and occupied, that's amazing. I think now, I just need to do something to get my mind off. Just sitting in my room after AX by myself really didn't do me any justice. At least now I'm on my way home, away from that hell hole of a city (only to come back next year for AX again lol). Good on you dude, too many guys fall to the hole of depression after getting their hearts destroyed. It seems like society and some women forget that men are people too.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, thanks man that means a lot but I honestly don't have a Facebook. I've never really been good at making friends, it was something my ex promised to help me with ironically. Yea dude it's easy to fall in that hole, I honestly did, but my biggest thing was my ex and her family constantly told me I would never do anything with my life, so I set out to prove them wrong. I now travel all around the world while my ex, no joke, lives in a trailer trailer home, and works at an auto parts store with her new boyfriend who just got out of prison for dealing heroine. I know I'm a better person and I shouldn't let what they've said affect me, but I wouldn't have such a drive to succeed if they hadn't doubted me. I guess I'm just thankful for the experience even if it was rough.
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, or any form of contact really. That's great dude, I thought the same way when I fell into this rut too. Just show everyone how much of a better person you are and succeed. That's a really special brand of fvcked up if her family joined in on that too. Good for her, her life is fvcked. We all have something to learn from our bad experiences. That's just how it is I guess, and as you are too, I'm thankful for them, no matter how bad.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, oh dude, if you only knew how rough of a relationship it was... Her parents made my life hell... But yea that's the best way to do it I think, just remember that you're a better person and things will pan out in the end. I just try to enjoy every aspect of life even when it's not the best.
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, seriously dude, people like that are the trash of humanity. When I broke up with my girlfriend, I constantly had to tell people (even my family) not to trash her, no matter how bad I said she was. Yup, life is fvcked, but you learn to enjoy it. I'm still so young, and still so much pain (and happiness) to experience. That's what memes and anime are for I guess lol.
@Otonashi Yuzuru, yea man, I'm glad you've food something that makes you happy. I'm probably going to get rid of funny pics, it's just not the same for me anymore
@Lie Ren Licks Taint, oh what? Come on man, you're right in the way that it isn't the same anymore, but it's so nice to just have the app sitting there, waiting for you to enjoy it. Like a loyal dog.
I knew a girl who had a guy pull this. She literally burst out laughing and said, "dang, even my imaginary p*ssy is so good it's got you all worked up." And just had a good laugh at it. was funny to watch