What’s green, fuzzy, and will kill you if it falls out of a tree?
A pool table. Anyways, next picture...
@FP Waiter, what's brown and sticky?
What's yellow and writes? A ballpoint banana.
@Empshok, OOOHHH!!! I LOVE my ballpoint banana! It's a no. 15... Teachers said I can't use it because my pen15 is too big :(
@FP Waiter, what’s calm on one side, sad on the other, but better than the middle? Swiping left or right.
There are a number of reasons why someone might not report a rape.
1) They're not sure they can prove it and they don't want to be "proven" to be a liar if the rapist is found innocent
2) Their peers and even sometimes their family won't believe them and assume they're either trying to hurt the rapist or that they want attention.
3) If it becomes big news, they WILL get death threats from internet a-holes.
4) They may want to forget it happened, even if later they still decide to report it.
5) They believe that they will be forced to undergo a rude and invasive rape kit procedure. (This is a myth, these people are trained to be gentle and kind to rape victims and the victim can choose to stop at any time or refuse all together)
6) They think the rapist could hurt them in retaliation, either with physical violence, lawsuits, or getting an internet mob mad at them.
These are all the reasons I could think of, though I'm sure there are more.
Most importantly though, is the harmful culture in America surrounding rape. People point out a lot (you can see it a lot right here) that people are innocent until proven guilty. This is important; however, it applies to the accuser as well.
Rape is the only crime where suspicion is immediately placed on the accuser and the strange actions of rape victims don't help.
Some people would find it suspicious if a ""rape victim"" changed their story during a trial; however, this is very common among people suffering from trauma. People can have trouble remembering events exactly as they were or in what order they happened.
A lot of people also mention how being accused of rape ruins your life. Well, so does accusing someone. Keep in mind what I mentioned above, being raped sucks and arguably, trying to put the rapist away sucks more.
So, don't assume the accused is a rapist, but also don't assume that the accuser is lying.
The issue is with the false rape accusations. The reason that people are skeptical nowadays is because there have been a lot of cries of “wolf” when there was nothing there.
If you have actually been the victim of sexual assault, then you need to go to the police, stat. And you need to report it.
Just to clarify, I am not saying that rape accusations should be assumed to be fake because some fake rape accusations have been leveled. What I’m saying is that those fake accusations are much more focused on by the media than the actual rapes, so people mostly see the fake ones. As a result, people who mostly see the fake ones are more skeptical than necessary.
@Ultimatum, but like we don’t worry about this for any other crime.
@Dragoon0106, What other crimes do people wait 4 years to report? If someone assaults you with a bat, Do you wait a few months and then go to the police?
@Pyvin, what other crimes do we constantly question the victim if it really happened?
@Dragoon0106, Because rape is incredibly difficult to prove. Not only in regard to who did it, but whether it happened at all.
And, if a person is accused of rape and end up being innocent (and I mean completely innocent, to the point of the accuser admitting they lied), just the accusation alone will ruin that persons life.
@Weird Porn Stash, I mean it’s not any harder to prove than plenty of other crimes. Sexual assault isn’t any harder to prove than plain old assault. And why does this crime ruin someone’s life and other crimes don’t?
@Dragoon0106, ummm, yeah it is harder to prove. It's usually a he said she said thing. How do you prove that? And in t he US accusers are automatically believed and the accused thought guilty as sin whether they can prove it's a lie or not.
@Oujosh29, I don’t understand how it’s harder to prove than just assault? That’s just as much of a one person said/someone else said.
@Dragoon0106, If you go into the station the day or day after it happened, they can get physical proof of the rape. I just don't understand why anyone would wait is all.
@Dragoon0106, well, if the person claims assault 4 years later you're right. Trying to accuse anyone that long ago is hard. If it's current you'd have injuries and maybe a witness
@Dragoon0106, if you hit me with a bat, I'll have obvious marks on me. if we have sex, then your significant other finds out and you call rape. thats how its harder to prove
@Dragoon0106, Yes it is harder to prove. With a murder you have a body, with assault you have wounds, with a break in you have broken locks/windows. Rape isn't necessarily violent and doesn't necessarily leave visible wounds.
Sexual assault is a term I don't really like discussing because it seems to be too vague. From everything I've heard, it seems to cover everything from brutal gang rape, to someone grabbing someone else's genetailia. One of those levels actual evidence, and one of them doesn't.
Just the accusation is enough of a stain on someone's name to get them kicked out of school, or fired from their job. Even if they're proven innocent. And I honestly couldn't tell you why. That's just how bad the crime is. It's such and awful thing that people think with their hearts, and not their brains. That's just the culture, at least in the U. S.
@Pyvin, some rapes aren't violent, some rapes are done to children who don't understand, to people under the influence that question if they deserved it, or they get raped by family members and don't know how to process that.
Sometimes we get older and wiser and learn that nothing you do makes it ok for someone to do that to you, that you're the victim. You just learned too late.
@Dragoon0106, well, with any crime, people should be regarded as innocent until proven guilty. The problem is that oftentimes with sexual assault the proof is all mental and emotional, and that has trouble holding up in a court of law.
@Ultimatum, the rate of false accusations is 4% which is lower than the rate for murder. It only feels like that because the media might discuss a false accusation more than an actual rape. Not to mention that vast majority rape cases don't end with a conviction anyway just a settlement
@Justastoner, that 4% is bull. They only count it when a female actually admits it was a lie, which a false accuser normally wouldn't do. There is no real statistic that can measure false accusations because it's impossible to prove a rape didn't happen just as much as it is to prove one did happen. Remember the rolling stone article about rape with "Jackie"? Yeah, the police still refuse to say that was a false rape accusation.
@Justastoner, and you aren’t wrong about it being largely due to the media. The fact of the matter is that false rape accusations make the news, false murder accusations don’t. So yes, people end up being a bit more skeptical about it. Not saying it’s right, just that there’s a reason for it.
@Dragoon0106, if someone is accused of assault and there is no evidence, you're right, it's also a he said/she said. Regardless of the crime, people are innocent until price guilty. We can't be throwing people in jail everytime someone points a finger.
@Ultimatum, retaliation or the fear of is one reason. Also rape can ruin you emotionally making you believe there is something wrong with you.
@Pyvin, it's also belly beyond humiliating.
@Ultimatum, The problem isn't even that. It's how extreme people on both sides get. In each case, either the accused is assumed to be guilty until proven innocent or the accuser is assumed to be lying. We shouldn't be doing either of these things. The accuser should get the benefit of the doubt, but at the same time we shouldn't assume that the accused is guilty.
@Dragoon0106, because rape is so broad. Slept with a drunk girl? That's rape. Slept with someone who turned out to be 17 and you're 18? That's rape. Slept with someone who later regretted it? Sometimes theyll claim rape.
The other problem is that drugs can be used and then the signs of rape aren't there.
By "people don't believe us", they mean no one is willing to prosecute without evidence.
OH THE HORRIBLE ANVIL OF IRONY!
*is crushed by giant anvil in the shape of the letter “E” in a bloody cartoon explosion of gore*
@liberachi , you're going to downvote just because. Such a douche
@big freedom, #downvote
@liberachi , #okdouche
" they dont believe us" meanwhile just an accusation made by a friend of the "rape victim" will destroy a mans life forever, even if the " rape victim" swears and testifies that she was not raped and it was completely consensual.
@BlazingBowman, yeah, this case was a bad one. Certainly not representative of rape accusations as a whole, but it’s definitely one of the reasons why people are overly skeptical about this sort of thing today.
@big freedom, magnetic letters are always a fun time
I mean you miss every shot you dont take so why not take a shot at reporting it