I need advice! This girl I rally like is coming to my place for our first real date, and my plan is to cook dinner for her and buy her favorite flowers. Am I overdoing it?
@kyleywyote, my advice? Open the door naked. If something happens, let us know.
@kyleywyote, keep it simple, it would be really easy to overdo it and look bad or desperate. Not sure how much that helps, but on a first date, less is more
@FP Waiter, see that's exactly what I'm worried about! I'm scared the flowers would be too much
@Quite Hung, it's a bold strategy, but I like it!
@kyleywyote, depends I think
Have you known her for awhile? Hung out before?
Do you know her favorite flower?
You could also get like 1 or 2 flowers she likes, rather than a huge boquet. That would probably be less over the top
Congrats and good luck!
@Quite Hung, perfect timing too, I just found a condom on this community board with a note saying, "have a safe weekend." I think that's a good sign, right?
@kyleywyote, I agree with Honaw Fierceclaw maybe one or two flowers or just have have a couple of them in a vase on a table and she can say “oh those are my favorite flowers” and you can offer them to her or just give them to her at the end of the night. Honestly I think I would be a little unsettled by a full bouquet on a first date but that’s just me, I’m more of a small potted plant kind of gal myself. Either way it’ll be ok first dates are made to be awkward. GOOD LUCK!
@ skh159, that’s good advice. I should add that if you overdo it on the first date, then you’ll be expected to meet or exceed that on the second date. It would be setting yourself up for failure. I would say choose one or the other: flowers or food (and I think the food idea is probably best unless you have another date activity planned). There’s also the off-chance that she’s a sh!tty person and you don’t want to waste $60 on a sweet bouquet if she sucks. Save that money for a video game or like a pedicure or whatever (I don’t know what you’re into, dude... gimme a break here).
@kyleywyote, depends on you guy's age and the woman herself. If this is a high school thing it'll probably get you somewhere. If it's college years who knows. And if you're both adults it might just work.
@HoorayFerSocks, oh and since I’m bored at work, I thought of another thing: first dates are about getting to know each other and seeing how the situation feels. Don’t throw up a bunch of smoke and mirrors to get her attention. Just throw away the facade be yourself and if she isn’t into that, then you won’t be happy with her anyway.
@kyleywyote, BAD. PUT THAT DOWN.
@kyleywyote, I always try and go a little above and beyond on the first date. Set the bar to show her you're different than every other guy. I just went through a similar date scenario this week. I bought a nice arrangement of flowers and she was blown away. She stayed the night so it obviously worked for me. I say go the extra mile.
@kyleywyote, personally Hun, depending on your age I think that it’s perfect. You’re not over doing or under doing it. I do recommend that you have a good time, and maybe try not to get into her pants on the first date (ik that it’s kinda obvious and dumb but I don’t know what else to say) :)
@pastel poop, thank you! Yah that's definitely not my intention. I really like her so I just want everything to be special
@kyleywyote, shout WAH a lot girls love it
@kyleywyote, ay I'm heading out for a first date tonight too
@JiggleMyPuffs, good luck to you!
@kyleywyote, cook dinner, don't buy flowers though. Might come off a bit overzealous
@Prince super Vegeta , what if I shout "THAT'S MY BULMAAA!!!" and punch a cat in the face?
@kyleywyote, Depends. Are there cats nearby? Also, what kind of cat is it? If you punch a house cat, she'll probably just be all like "What the fvck, Richard?" If it's a lion, tiger, puma, or any other big cat, well... good luck with that. Have fun, don't die.
@kyleywyote, you're gonna have to make him ramen for his attendant then
@Agent New Mexico, this cool cat destroys worlds but enjoys a good whataburger
@Prince super Vegeta , *urge to punch in the face intensifies*
@Agent New Mexico, ?
@kyleywyote, well my date went extraordinarily well. How'd you do?
@JiggleMyPuffs, I got stood up
@kyleywyote, ouch. Sorry to hear that, man. Did she give you any kind of reason?
@JiggleMyPuffs, nah she just quit texting me back. It's all good though. Congrats too, I'm happy for you!
@kyleywyote, thanks man. Hang in there, you'll find another!
And now he has another job