Alright fellas off topic but I've gotta vent a little bit here
I'm pretty sick of this whole dating game and the games you have to play. Is this shjt supposed to be fun? I've been in 1 somewhat serious relationship my whole life and the girl after this relationship I lost because I didn't move fast enough. She told me (later on) that she regrets our relationship didn't really catch fire because now She wonders what we could have been. Ok first off it was my fault in a sense because I did move to slow but I clearly showed my interest in her and we were moving towards a real relationship but she ended up going with a guy who moved in on her faster. Okay whatever learn from your mistakes right? Apparently fvcking not because just tonight this girl I have somewhat been with tells me that she now has a boyfriend but wants us to stay friends. Wtf?? We went on semi small dates and I even did romantic stuff like take her on nature walks and kiss her at night in the park. I was already being
@addibruh, exclusive with her and she was clearly into me but we spend 1.5 weeks apart (school and travel) and now apparently I'm the dumb fvck who repeated my same mistake twice and moved to slow?? I'm all for one night stands and stuff but seriously fvck me for trying to do a relationship the right way? Like I just don't get it. We have romance and adventure but I guess I'm missing out on the final piece of doing everything in a weeks time?
Anyways thanks for listening
@addibruh, sounds like more of a loss for her then you, you'll find someone that likes your brand of romance eventually ya just gotta keep looking
@addibruh, you don't have to rush things. When you find a girl that likes to spend time with you, you can take your fine with the relationship and it will be stronger in the end. People who want one night stands are only in relationships for the sex and not to build a future. A relationship built in love abs not lust will last longer. I didn't find my wife till I was 24 and didn't get married until I was 30. Keep your chin up and eventually everything with work out for you
@addibruh, I went through something very similar to your 2nd incident a while back and it really sucks, but I promise you it will all be worth it when you find the right person
@addibruh, it's just how a lot of people are right now man, I've recent dealt with the same issue. Don't change or give up though, the right one will come along, as frustrating as it is putting up with all the crap to that point.
I'm currently trying to decide whether or not to ask this girl our I share classes and work with, whether she'd be worth a serious relationship chance and the possible frustration and heartache that goes with it, or not. I guess what I'm saying is we've gotta just keep trying and being who we are, selective of mates and trying to find the right one.
@KingGhost52, yea that's a good point and It's encouraging to hear your success story. I guess mostly I'm just disappointed I didn't learn my lesson and repeated the same mistake. It's like I saw the writing on the wall but just ignored it. And I guess I'm also just concerned that in my next relationship I won't be able to enjoy the whole young love feeling because I'll be worried about moving too slow
@addibruh, you’ve just gotta be better than everyone else. Be so irresistible that the girls are chasing you, and not the other way around. You’ll know when you’ve found the right person.
@addibruh, ur problem is obvious friend. Ur trying to guess what the women want. Rookie mistake. 90% of the time these bitches don’t even know what they want, which means you won’t know what they want.
Sound like your are viewing dating from the perspective of “I want a gf to be with for love and stuff.”
If ur looking for long term, you need to view dating from the perspective of “this is what I need from a woman long term.” If you find someone who matches what you need, the way you act toward her becomes second nature, so you won’t be second guessing going too fast or slow.
Love brings people together but companionship keeps them together.
@addibruh, there is no rush and don't be afraid to put yourself out there. The right one will come along. You got this
@addibruh, if you don’t have sex on the first date apparently it’s not “official”
@addibruh, Bitches, right? Forget girls, start giving out peepee touches. (I know that this doesn't help, but I still genuinely hope the best for you)
@addibruh, it's not you, it's her. Your mistake wasn't taking things slow, it was giving her a second chance. An understandable, and forgivable error (if it's an error at all). Your situation reminds me of something I had to deal with. Some girls have issues, it sounds like this girl was no exception. She isn't worth your time. If she wasn't willing to wait for one week for you, then she wasn't the one. After five months of waiting for a girl who claimed she really wanted to be with me but who kept making excuses and putting me second, I had enough. I realized that I had enough of being put in second place to everything. If I were really important to her, then she would treat me that way. Nice guys don't necessarily finish last, but they often end up in second. You were doing everything right and the girl you find will eventually make it all worth it, but right now it sucks. You put your heart and soul on the line only to be betrayed by someone you who you thought cared about you.
@addibruh, my girlfriend and I talked for two months before we became serious, don’t worry about “Going too slow”. That girl probably didn’t want a relationship with you, I’m sorry but it happens man. Find someone else, find someone better. I know it sounds cliche to say, and you won’t want to find someone right away, but they are out there.
@addibruh, they weren't that into you. They probably just liked the attention. Keep searching, you'll find the one. You also mentioned school so you have loads of time
@addibruh, bruh i feel for you. Idk how we are suppose to even go about relationships. Social convention these days seems to be that people expect you to get physical fast. I know thats appealing to alot if not most people, but im looking to get to know someone more. I want the relationship to progress. This is all coming from a guy who has really never been physical ever, so what do i know, though ive had plenty of opportunites. Looking for a deep connection before moving fast is a rare quality in people nowadays. Only advice i can give you is the same advice i give myself. Put yourself out there with woman and sift through all the bītches and höes who either reject you or dont want the same thing as you. Eventually i have faith that guys like us will truely find the 'right girl'. Just got man up and keep looking. Best of luck to us brother
@addibruh, This is way more on the girls than it is on you. Please don't change how you are a true relationship worth having isn't built overnight or in a week. It takes at least 2-4 years to get to know someone. As a girl it makes me feel better to know that there are still guys out there that genuinely care about getting to know a girl and building a relationship with her instead of jumping straight into things. Don't give up!!
@addibruh, you've done better than me friend I have had a grand total of 0 date so at least you've had experience look on the bright side one person clearly gave you a shot there will be more
@addibruh, hey! A little advice from the perspective of a 23 year old female that’s been in her fair share of good and bad relationships. As cliche as it may sound those girls that bailed on you probably weren’t the right ones. Any girl that’s really into you is gonna want you and only you, she won’t even think of other guys when you’re the one.. so from the sound of it they just weren’t right for you. Not sure how old you are but I’d guess pretty young. Just know that the right one is out there and it will happen.. just gotta be patient as much as it sucks sometimes and in all honesty don’t look too hard.. sometimes the greatest love happens when you least expect it. Hope I helped a little! Keep your head up!
@NicoleB, thanks for your kind words. You make good points. in hindsight you're right, I don't think they were right for me. I think I'm just concerned that in future relationships I'm going to have to move at a fast pace or risk losing the girl
@addibruh, of course! And as far as worrying about not moving fast enough, I can 100% guarantee that when the time is right and the girl is right, you’ll both be on the same page and you won’t need to worry about taking it too slow or too fast, you’ll just move together!
@NicoleB, thanks! That really makes me feel better about this whole thing :)
@addibruh, that must have wheely hurt.
I'd smash a girl in a wheelchair
@Reluctantkitty , frankly, I’d smash anything with a pulse and a skirt
You can only get away with being a jerk like that if you're funny, and this clearly wasn't funny.
that was chairy innappropriate.
And that is how I got my @ss handed to me by a disabled person.
Paralysis can hurt? Can someone explain?
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