Peripherally related to post: today at work I was preparing for a lab during my office hours (I'm a professor) and decided to call my grandpa (mom's dad) as I worked because he hadn't been doing so well (97 is old and nearly 100% aortic stenosis leading to about 15% ventricular emptying (normal is 60-80%) is bad) and I wanted to let him know I loved him. My mom, who'd been visiting him and helping manage his hospice care, picks up and tells me he'd passed away at home literally three minutes before I'd called.
We talked for a bit, cried a lot, and then I basically had to keep it together and teach a lab for three hours.
I'm sharing all this because I wanted to thank this community for making a place I can go to laugh and d'aww when I need it. Thank you so much you beautiful bastards. Thank you for all the funny memes, witty comments, adorable animals, and occasional wholesome post. It made my day much more bearable.
@OopsIEsploded, I am sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to lose a grandparent without being able to say goodbye. Try to remember him the way he would want you to, knowing you loved him and he loved you. Eventually you will be able to think of the fun times and smile without tears of sadness, but instead happiness. Until then, this community will be here for you.
@OopsIEsploded, I can only understand half of what you said but I’m here for you and will punch myself in the face if that will cheer you up? Spiked brass knuckles if you want it to hurt?
@Your Darkest Secret, thanks for the offer, but nah it's okay. You don't have to do all that.
Also: Basically, the valve that leads from his heart to his body to make sure blood doesn't flow backward into his heart once it's been pumped out wasn't closing all the way—at the end, it wasn't closing at ALL. So instead of pumping most of the blood in his heart out, most of it was getting squeezed out, then flowing backwards right back in. It's not a sustainable place to be if you want to, y'know, live.
Tbh, once we knew that, it was just a matter of time until his heart gave out enough that he lost consciousness and passed. Could've been anywhere from 2 days to 2 months. Ended up being about 3-4 weeks. And even then he didn't have bad days until about the last, eh, three days? So definitely not as bad as it could've been.
I mean hey. He died at home, like he always wanted to, and he always joked he didn't want to live past 98 because "99 years is too long for anybody." He was 97.
In the back of work is where you break down explicitly. Please don’t do it at the cash register while I’m trying to purchase a liter of Mountain Dew and my Doritos.