Alright so this is funny and all but I need to get something off my chest and I know this community is supportive of anyone who's going through a tough time.
Today was my first day of school (I'm a junior in high school), and there's a high-functioning autistic kid in the grade above me. He likes to talk to me and I can barely tolerate him, but I try to be nice.
Well, today, on the way back from lunch, he fake tripped behind me and put his arms around me, putting his hand on my breast. Then he went on like nothing happened and it was the most uncomfortable thing I've ever experienced. My friend was a witness to his poorly-acted fall and we went and told the counselor, who told administration. The security footage was pulled and it was very clear that it wasn't an accident. The kid is going to be punished, regardless of his mental state, but I just cant get my mind off it in the slightest. Not even FunnyPics is helping me at this moment. I just needed to anonymously rant.. thank you
@Novajix, big oof
@Novajix, christ, was that the first time he ever done something like that? Sorry to hear you had to be felt up like that.
@MrWonka, yeah, but he always gets uncomfortably close no matter who he's talking to. This was the first time he has touched me like this. I'm just happy that he's getting punished for it.
@Novajix, i work w/ special needs kids a lot and can tell you that he understands that what he did was wrong and you are 100% justified in how you feel
@Novajix, Even if he’s high functioning, that’s no excuse. I have a high functioning autistic brother and that would absolutely not fly. Not cool at all
@Novajix, Sorry to hear that. You did the right thing by reporting it. Hope you can get over it quickly and keep moving on.
@Novajix, so I have a Down’s syndrome brother, he has the mind of a 5 or 6 year old, so he hasn’t done anything like that. He’s helped me to practice being patience with others. Idk what the kid’s mental capacity is but it seems like you did everything that was in you power. It helps to focus on thing that are in your control rather than worry about things outside of it.
@Novajix, my bro is high functioning autistic. Despite the mental ability they may or may not have, they can still know right from wrong. Don’t feel bad, because this kid seems smart enough to try to fake what is technically assault.
@Novajix, that's some bullshît dude. Im sorry that happened, I'm glad you reported it and that it was taken seriously.
@Novajix, sounds like the only thing you have to get off your chest is an autistic kid.
(I’m sorry I know your upset but being that this is funny pics it felt appropriate to make a joke.)
You did the right thing, mental status has nothing to do with actions. Sexual assault is sexual assault regardless of who it is.
@Novajix, it almost sounds like he’d been watching too much anime and tried to do a trip into boob grab and that whole exaggerated charade where everything is ok in the end and the MC “didn’t mean it” but yea no sorry that definitely sucks, you made the right call
@Novajix, I’m sorry to hear that, thank you for confiding. That can be a tough thing to do. We are always here for any rant related needs.
@Novajix, always, ALWAYS tell a grownup and tell him you don’t want to be friends anymore. Direct is all he’ll understand
@Novajix, That's horrible. I'm glad the administration is doing something about it.
@Novajix, as a side note, even though I’m a guy, I have been sexually assaulted before. It does take some time to get over and you might feel a little uncomfortable for a while, but it will get better with time.
Unlike my situation where I was completely able to sever contact with the perpetrator and he was summarily fired for his actions, you might still run into your assaulter. It might be hard, and if he’s legitimately sorry then maybe don’t, but barring true sorrow and you being willing to forgive, if he talks to you, you need to tell him you do not want to see him or talk to him again.
But even if he’s legitimately sorry, don’t feel bad if you still feel like separation is the answer. Just be firm and up front about it. Being that he’s not 100% cognizant, he may have not fully understood how wrong his actions were, but losing a friend (even an imagined one on his end) can be a powerful lesson
@Sven and Otar, I understand and I'm sorry to hear that a similar situation happened to you. I've talked with my counselors and the next time he tries to talk to me, I'm telling him off and telling him that I'm not comfortable with him near me. If he asks why, I'll damn well tell him why.
I understand that he doesnt pick up on social cues and that he won't fully comprehend some things, but this is something that he needs to know. It will have more of an impact if his peer is telling him rather than an adult, although there will be plenty of people who tell him what he did was wrong.
@Novajix, Fake falling in order to grope someone...Autism or no, that was a calculated move on that guy's part. He knew what he was doing. Probably thought he could leverage his disability to get a free pass. Doesn't happen often, but it does from time to time.
@Novajix, Ahem. Beat the shlt out of him if he ever comes near you again. I recommend wearing steel toed boots. Kick him right in the shin. Alternatively carry one of your big asss text books and proceed to smash it right into his nose. You have to protect yourself. Your safety and comfort come first. This guy is more then likely using his "disability" to get away with henious shlt. Your more then likely not the first person he has taken advantage of.
This cannot stand. Sometimes you need to put someone in their place for the safety of others. I dont care how big and strong he is, a well placed kick to the shin from steel toed boots is going to hurt and a book to the nose is going to deter most people from messing with you.
@LaDarkProphet, while I have been told to do something similar many times by my parents, I dont think I would get away with it a day after it happened. But I will be very strict if he tries to come near me again and I'm sure my friend that witnessed the act will aid in pushing him away.
Now, if anyone else tries to do anything like that to me, I'm knocking their lights out.
@Novajix, Trust me love, your safety and comfort are worth a school suspension. And from what you said your parents would probably be ok with you missing a few days of class for defending yourself. You need to ensure your own safety and comfort. Trust me, school is much easier to deal with when people know and understand that you are not to be fvcked with. Humans suck, and children are often times the most cruellest humans imaginable. Stick up for yourself because often times other people can't or wont.
You seem like a good kid. Dont let the system or others take that away ^-^
@LaDarkProphet, I dont plan to. As far as missing school goes, I plan to do so only if I need a serious mental health day or if I'm sick. With this incident, I dont feel completely unsafe in the environment. If I do, I'll call one of my parents to pick me up and take me home until the issue is resolved. But until that day comes, I'll be kickin a$$ and making sure my personal boundaries are known
@Novajix, I know an autistic kid that is a friend of a friend, who does the exact same thing. Uses his autism to manipulate people knowing full well what he’s doing. It’s disgusting. I’m sorry you went through that. I’m just glad that justice was on your side. I hope you’re able to forget about the whole thing soon
@Depressed Cashier, me too, and I hope this friend of a friend is able to be curved into doing what is right instead of manipulating for personal gains.
@Novajix, I work with people with disabilities, including autism. This incident had nothing to do with his autism, it had everything to do with him being a dumba$$ teenage boy who thought he could get away with this stupid shjt. Speaking as a former teenage girl (this EXACT thing happened to me, and similar things as well) thank you for not letting him get away with it. I let a lot of guys get away with this stuff and I regret it. One of them even said “I could see your boob so I thought I could grab it”. And no, not my whole boob. Like, the part not in my bra. Don’t be the girl that laughs it off, be the girl who treats it like the serious violation it is. Go you.
@Novajix, my son is autistic, if he pulled some sheeit like that, it’s curtains for him.
@Novajix, If he’s high functioning like you say then in my experience he knows damn well what he did. He might not pick up on social cues well and such but an orchestrated act like that indicates he was very much aware of his actions. So either he somehow convinced himself by watching slice of life anime or something that that’s just how you find a girlfriend or he thought he could sneak something by using his disability as a shield. You did the right and make sure he knows straight up not get near you so as to prevent this from happening again.
You did the right thing. I’m saying this as an educator. If this is the first time he’s done something like this he needs to know that this is unacceptable behavior, if he’s done this with other girls and gotten away with it he needs to know he can’t do that with you. You have to establish clear boundaries. Keep it up and I hope you have a fantastic year.
@Mark Twains ghost, Thank you for the encouragement and advice, I will certainly do my best!
That comment was for Novajix
@Mark Twains ghost, I kinda guessed that since it fit along with the conversation