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The girl i been taking it slow with for 3 months just told me she wants to be friends because she isnt ready for a relationship with anyone. Its so so so so hard to hear that. She still wants me around and would like to come back together but im so terrified of waiting and ending up looking like a dumbass. I like her a lot though so i guess id rather look like a dumbass then not take the chance. Thanks for letting me vent a bit.
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@tylersmileyface, Brother let me pass on some knowledge. I come from a relationship where I was disrespected, treated unfairly, and inevitably cheated on before I finally respected myself enough to leave. For 8 months after it ended I bounced between searching for myself and wanting to die. I constantly analyzed my relationship and thought about each and every instance in which I should have left. I spent many nights feeling like I would never find my "soul mate". The truth is soul mates don't exist for everyone, there are many suitable mates for each individual and before you can find one, you need to know your worth. you deserve more than to just wait around hoping, while she potentially gets laid by other dudes. I went on a date with a girl that has so many guys after her, she was beautiful. I turned her down for a second because I caught her in a lie on the first one, which is a huge red flag for me now. my point is, you look for what you want and you don't settle for less.
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@JoeJoestar, I agree. I know my worth now more than i ever have before. But I know she wont be with any other men because she isn’t ready for that. And I told her if she does that Im not gonna be sticking around anymore. So there is also that. I think you’re potentially right that i shouldn’t wait and be drug around, but she isn’t asking me to wait. She doesnt want anyone right now. It isnt my fault and I did everything right. It would be a choice of my own to do this and I think it’s potentially worth it. I think she just needs a ton of space to get over her past relationship.
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@tylersmileyface, from a man who has been in a very very long friendzone relationship of waiting for her to be ready to date, this is my advice. Woman decide within the first couple months weather your a friend or a potential bf while guys do not. Once you're seen as a friend, theres no going back to potential bf. I really suggest just ending the friendship if you like her that way as getting past the friendzone is incredibly rare and movie material (there have literally been movies about guys breaking the friendzone). Please dont end up like me and be stuck on a girl for years before finally walking away after coming to the realization. On a personal note I'm now vert happily dating this girl I met senior year of college and going to be proposing soon after 3 happy years now. There are much better women out there who arent going through the I'm not ready to stage. Go fine her.
That’s kinda wholesome if you ignore the creepiness