This happened so often - still does - with my dad. My brother was in the room while I studied for 3 hours, and my dad came in at the three times at which I took a 5 Min break, and he didn't believe me no matter what I or even my brother said. He yelled at me so much for hours until I started crying with chicken nuggets in my mouth at dinner. I'll never forget that feeling of choking on tears and chicken nuggets during that dinner (I was 18 btw). Then he yelled because I was crying, which of course made me cry more. Please don't be a dick to your kids.
Though I admit, me coping with countless chicken nuggets at once while having a breakdown must have looked quite funny
@A pet named Steve, on the bright side at least your coping mechanism wasn’t sharting your pants.
@A pet named Steve, I find childhood verbal beat downs makes for building a great sense of humor, as twisted as that sounds.
@Somervillage, It's true. Some of the funniest people I know had the most f*cked up childhood experiences.
@Somervillage, makes for less sensitivity most definitely. I’m never offended unless you manage to remind me of childhood hurts.
@Somervillage, As most comedians suffer from bad depression what you say is true, but not necessarily a good thing. But that's also how we get people who are muddled up enough to handle being a first responder. So keep that dark past and darker humor coming.
@mazemarble, we also got Slim shady out of it so hey, bars amirite?
@A pet named Steve, this is why you have a dark sense of humor, I’ve been their growing up no matter how good I did I wasn’t a good kid, 3.5 gpa up until 11th grade I said fück it partied and did bad stuff but kept a 2.9 almost 3.1 depending on the week
@A pet named Steve, what sucks about being a victim of this kind of abuse is that everyone just says “you get yelled at? So what ,that’s not a big deal. Just don’t take any breaks and you won’t get yelled at.” And it’s hard to explain that it’s “more than just yelling” and that’s why I have zero family now because they kept pushing me to talk to my dad again because “so what?” But in reality I’m absolutely ruined as an adult that breaks down everytime my husband gets mad at me. Im sorry what you went through, its one of the worst kinds of abuse since no one ever actually helps you.
@Noctobo, it's definitely true that people don't acknowledge psychological abuse like they acknowledge physical abuse. Whenever my dad yells at my brothers, I reflexively start crying as well, even if I'm not in the room. People often don't realise how much verbal abuse can affect you. I'm sorry that you had to go through that, and I hope your husband is understanding.
@A pet named Steve, exactly, and if it helps , you're definitely not alone in the " burst into tears automatically like a new mom lactating when she hears a baby cry" thing. Sometimes in that situation it's really all you can do
My husband has definitely been the most understanding (when I say gets mad I just mean the average annoyances that come with living with someone in a small space for years) but he's handling it as best he can.
Hopefully you and your siblings can get far away from your dads physical, and emotional reach. I can attest that the farther you get away, the better it feels. The crying never really completely goes away, but it does get better.
The best of luck to you guys!
@A pet named Steve, if you waste chicken nuggets at my house you’re gonna get more than yelled at. We give the death penalty for that in Texas. The yelling at you for crying is a dick move tho
@Noctobo, I'm planning to move out this year. I've been living at my mom's the past 2 months and I feel so free! And I'm very glad to hear that your husband is so understanding.
Thank you for your words of encouragement :)
This shjt happens to me att work... The machine can be running all fine for hours and all is good n dandy. But the second it stops, it doesn't matter if I stop it or it stops on it's own for whatever the reason... My boss always walks by when it's not running... It's like he can feel it and it annoys me
No breaks. Breaks are for lazy kids.