I didn’t put in the work to get in shape until I admitted to myself that I hated my body. In my opinion, body positivity can be cruel. Most people aren’t going to lose weight until they admit to themselves that less people are attracted to them because they are fat. And if you have an issue you can’t control like your height or a disability, it’s better to confront it head on than try to convince yourself it isn’t real.
@Sappy Poop Stain, body positivity is for people that are ashamed of themselves but unwilling to go through the pain of bettering their body. Even worse, they hide behind the rare individuals who have legitimate biological impediments to being at a healthy weight.
It’s like demanding your high school diploma despite failing your classes because you didn’t do the work and claiming you deserve special treatment because people with mental retardation exist.
@Sappy Poop Stain, abso-fvckin'-lutely my dude. I can't help the fact I was going noticeably bald at 23, I can't help the fact I've got some severe ADHD which makes me a bit too talkative, high energy, and gives me a greater inclination to get hyper-fixated on any random subject that piques my interest. But I can control whether my head was shaved or not and the fact that I was both skinny & pudgy, so I hit the gym (w/some help from my roomie, thx Kev 😘).
Am I still a weirdo with an affinity for random subjects and has difficulty shutting up? Absolutely. Am I still a bit overly nerdy for most women I'm interested in? Sure. But I look better, I feel better, and I know now the only limitations between me and finding the right person for me is whether I'm interested in them and whether they can enjoy me in spite of my weird-ass self
@Sappy Poop Stain, disagree completely and studies often prove the people who don’t feel good about themselves aren’t successful with weight loss. For me it was about realizing I deserve better for my health.
There’s body positive and then there’s making an excuse for being obese
@downunderdoctor, one hides behind the other
There's a reason for this.
Fat bottomed girls, they make the rockin' world go round.
“[ ]-Positivity” = No responsibility.
Fuсk all of this; short people really do get the……short….end of the stick 😔
I was once badly played by a tall girl. We went on dates and she was super nice, and she invited me to work at the same camp as her. It was great until we considered going serious, then she realized that she’d never be with someone short like me and started telling people I was a stalker. Because they “believe all women” I was outcasted and when I tripped her brother as a joke because we were friends, I got accused of attacking him for revenge. Soon after I got fired due to both incidents. It was all fabricated but he was my homie till the end! Then she immediately started dating this tall guy and even he came and apologized to me when he found out what she did. We were bros, too!
Anyways I’m married now and my wife is half an inch shorter than me!
She threw out all her heels when we got married 😒😅
@Child Slapper, congratulations on finding a good woman!
Underwater: guys with small pp
Underwater: Asian guys with massive pp taking a cosplay picture with the small pp guy.
Neather know the other's a dude.
I feel like body positivity is something that should be done in moderation, but everyone either wants to go 100% on it or not do it at all.
Making overweight people feel ashamed won’t help. Most overweight people are emotional eaters, so making them feel bad will only make them indulge their bad habit further. At the same time, however, unconditional acceptance and positivity will only reinforce their unhealthy behaviors.
As a formerly obese person, what helped me the most was a splash of acceptance and a dose of realism. Shaming me just made me feel bad and start eating for comfort, while radical acceptance made me feel like I was justified in overeating. What ended up helping me was basically people saying “I love you, and I don’t think any less of you for being obese, but you’d really have a much higher quality of life if you were healthy.” Hearing that from the people I cared about finally made it stick.
Don’t be a bully, but be real
It's an old meme, but it checks out