You're god d*m right! I hate the new parenting techniques now-a-days. I'd say that getting spanked and yelled at actually helped me in the long run, because I didn't end up repeatedly doing the same stupid sh*t and getting in trouble for it.
@Sharkeisha, I was never spanked and I'm very respectful, polite, courteous, etc. I'm just not a dumb a*s.
@Darth Sidious, same here
@Darth Sidious, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a disrespectful brat without spanking.
@Darth Sidious, well, we all grow up differently. I was also very respectful without getting spanked, but when at times when I didnt listen, my parents didnt just sit on their @sses and not do anything. They took action and punished me, like any parent sane parent would do.
@Sharkeisha, yeah I got yelled at, spanked, and when something was really bad my dad would leave it to my brother who is 8 years older then me and my brother would hit me a couple times a little harder. I didn't see it as any kind of abuse I was just a really dumb kid but now I've had people say that I'm too respectful sometimes. But it's just what a grew up to be like.
@Sharkeisha, you all are lucky, I was beat, like literal abuse, cops called and everything. And that's why I was disrespectful. (Don't take this to heart too much, I've moved past it)
@Sharkeisha, the parenting nowadays is actually only what NOT to do and not what TO do.
@jrman00, couldn't be more true man, i completely agree.
@Sharkeisha, I wasn't spanked when I misbehaved but my parents did still punish me. The problem isn't no spanking per se, it's the lack of disciplinary action.
@Sharkeisha, my mother never laid a hand on me. I grew up fine without living in fear.
@Sharkeisha, in my opinion, new parenting is inadequate. But I don't feel that spanking is good either. I believe that the child should be punished, but without causing pain.
More kids nowdays need to be spanked. Kids are so disrespectful nowdays and parents have become too soft on their kids. It's all too common now for kids to call their mom a bitch and tell their parents they hate them .
@Luna, I know my parents recently took in foster kids and they are the most disrespectful kids I've ever seen, by the way one is 4 one is 10. When my parents brought up spanking to the child care organization they flipped out and they most they can do for punishment is take something away or put them in time out which clearly isn't very effective.
@Luna, my parents never spanked me as a child but they still taught me good manners and respect. It's just the parents that spoil their kids that are the problem, in my opinion.
@ProbablyNotTheFirst, if your the older sibling you don't spank your relative just teach them manners
@Luna, i work at target and one day i saw a mother her her child.. he was mad and he was screaming. he was yelling at her saying "i hate you" "worst mom ever" he actuslly slap her to and the mom was looked sad ... all i know is... i did that once my mom grab me by the hair and took to the bathroom n got spanked me .... maybe i have big tights from getting hit by the belt a lot as a child? lol
@Luna, same here I was spanked almost everyday from kindergarten through 2nd grade. I was a jerk child. After 3rd grade it wasn't nearly as often. Now that I look back on it, it helped me have a healthy dose of respect for authority. Me and my folks have a great relationship. We don't really fight and my teenage years were the exact opposite of what you see today.
@mizuty, same here my folks beat me when I threw a tantrum in public.
@Luna,ell you have to be more broad , in geometry class which is supposedly a honor class all the people in there are idiots,and I'm in the 9nth grade
@Luna, Yeah my parents did that to me until elementary school and I've honestly turned out pretty well. I'm nice, do well in school, and I never say a mean thing to a person unless they really deserve it. A lot of parents don't even tell their kids anything when they do something wrong anymore. Like how my mom is with my little brother now...
@Luna, Spanking is fine to a point. I was spanked until my ass was bruised and it hurt to sit. Thats abuse
@billy mcqwerty, I agree. In my case I did have a healthy fear of what my parents could do but I was spanked very few times in my life because a threat was quite sufficient most of the time.
@Luna, I do have a feeling that if we just started to spank this generation, they would fight back based on how we've raised them.
@billy mcqwerty, I agree. I was never spanked but I was definitely taught manners. When I was in trouble, it definitely taught me a lesson.
I would like to say something, because I see the topic so much, that each child has different ways of being disciplined better, some methods work better on some kids that don't on others. One child could feel bad about what they have done by time out, but some need to be spanked.
@Cartoon Lover, see he problem with that idea is timeouts don't work in the slightest on anyone over 10 years old. Anyone older than that and all that happens is the child will just be waiting out their "punishment". If you think time outs will solve an issue with modern kids your wrong. Just as wrong as the parents who think confiscation of a phone is a big and severe punishment since kids can text form other people's phones or even from a computer if they really cared enough. Time outs won't register as a punishment in any form other than for a young child
Which most kids need to learn these days
Spanking is the laziest way to raise a child. They should be taught to the right thing out of morality and respect, not fear of a beating.
@Galaxykid44, what happens when they don't care what you say or do?
@Stuckpixel Employee,when they don't care is when you realize you failed as a parent. Not caring is taught, it's not a trait. Either you didn't put enough emphasis on how important what you say as a parent is or you never taught them that in the first place. Kids are here to be guided, they don't know any better and it's your job as a parent to teach them. I firmly believe that bad kids are never the kids fault unless there is an underlying medical problem making it that way.
@Galaxykid44, Actually, I learned morality and respect from spanking... I still love my parents, so everything's fine.
@Galaxykid44, I agree completely. I wish I had more than one thumb to give you. When I did something bad, instead of just hitting me, my parents would make me understand what I did wrong. I think I'm a very polite person.
@Katara , I always had my candy and electronics taken for the day. Sure that only had to happen twice but it stopped me from doing anything bad.
@Galaxykid44, I think for some kids that works and for some it doesn't. I was a bad kid. I was a brat. Spankings were the only option & I've turned out to be a polite respectful person
@Galaxykid44, I believe your view of proper spanking is a bit skewed. I can only remember about two time in my life when I was spanked, and I remember exactly why I was spanked, and I'll never do those things again. A good spanking is an extremely effective parenting tool that is meant to be used sparingly.
@Stuckpixel Employee, then you already failed.
@jdoodle, you're going to be a super crappy parent.
@jdoodle, if there is no consequence to their actions your kid will walk all over you. You will end up being one of those weak parents whose kid is jumping on a table in public while you tell them not to make you count to three and will start counting and will say "1,2,2 and three quarters"etc and will never actually get to three and the kid will eventually get down on their own simply because they are done with whatever tantrum they had where as you look like a failure and every sensible parent will just be shaking their head at you in disgust.
As a child? They still do
You poor thing.
I was never spanked as a child, yet I do not disrespect people, unless by an accidental miscommunication. Personally, I don't think it's necessary the lack of discipline, I believe it to be that they simply weren't taught how to properly respect someone, as well as manners. Also, it depends on the technique. If their parents and the people around them are setting a good example as well as teaching then what to do and what not to do, the kid ought to turn out right. However, when their parents and those around them are cussing and hardly giving a damn, it shouldn't come as a surprise when the kid picks it up.
Or how about you parent well. Not spanking. Actually get the kid in trouble without spanking so they learn to do better without getting hit.
Yeah, at first I thought I'd never spank my kids, but after seeing how my peers behaved and had no respect for each other AT ALL...
Well it isn't perfect. There actually are psychological effects. I don't know the exact percent, but a number of girls who are spanked as a child are attracted to men who will do the same thing. Which doesn't seem so bad, but often leads to an abusive relationship.
As a nineteen year old boy who grew up with insane influences. I can say that respect and maturity are some of my priorities because my parents spanked me.
Parenting skills change generation to generation. Every generation feels they have it best, so just shut the fvck up about how getting spanked helped you and parents are too soft. Your parents probably had the sh!t kicked out of them because that was the norm. Not sorry for the long post.
@CanadaIsOkay, I wish I could thumb up you more than once.
@RockDaHouse690, I wish I could thumb you both down more than once.
My parents spanked me too. As a result I now suffer from a psychological condition known as "I kick ass at killing and don't feel bad whatsoever"
I think spanking not in full strength, isn't bad but my parents both suffered huge damage to there body's from the belt and the stick, I think spanking is illegal because it's very probable that a spank will lead eventually to something else, my parents used to be afraid to come home because of that, and I think that is wrong in a lot of ways.
@Hotmagma, Spanking isn't illegal.
@Hotmagma, Well see there's a difference between spanking and what you're describing (beating).
@Hotmagma, I mean you don't have to hurt them and give them scars you just show them not to do that
@Hotmagma, spanking isn't wrong, if the parents do it out of love and to teach a lesson. If the parents come in and spank their child for no good reason, then its abuse.
@unassuming local guy, c'mon son, don't make me get out the love belt instead of sitting you down and breaking down those emotional be
Yes because hitting kids is the only way you can make them learn to be nice...or the kid will learn that it's okay to hit
@Connor161, I was spanked, I do not hit people, people drank in front of me, I do not drink, people smoke all around me, I do not smoke.
@Stuckpixel Employee, it increases the likelihood it's not a 100% guarantee
@Connor161, wtf do you mean? Are you implying that without spanking people won't mind being hit?
Respect my authority
I personally hate when people say that because being afraid of someone is not the same as having respect for them. I think you can only get true respect by showing respect. :/
I'm never going to spank or hurt my children. Just the other day my mother slammed me in the head, pinched, and then kicked me because I apparently asked a stupid question. You know what I asked? “Do you have your contacts in?” I'm never gonna be my mom.
While punishment is important, there is a line between punishment and abuse that should never be crossed