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So you guys I have a predicament on my hands and a little help would be pretty nice cause I've been losing a lot of sleep over it lately. So a few days ago a girl I really liked told me that the feeling was mutual, but since then I have started to text her and now she has started to not reply and occasionally cancels plans, but when we do hangout it's about 50/50 on the way she acts towards me. So my question to you all is what exactly should I do should I keep on trying or do you all think I'm just wasting my time?
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@Perkusionrols , we'll see she told me in a weird way that she really likes me. She told me that she was attracted to a lot if people then told me that she thought I was too, but she's only actually "liked" a few people I her life and that she liked me. But I be been trying to get her to go to dinner or something of that nature to talk about it, but she always wants to hang out with other people there.
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@ADHD Sloth, well sir you have fallen into a predicament. What i recommend doing is isolating her away from her friends and asking her what she sees in you, another friend or a something more? And if she still does not answer you then you stop wasting your time. In time if she likes you then she will tell you but if she never then move on with life it is never good to look back and think what might have happened
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@ADHD Sloth, stop texting her first. Don't seem so interested. Make her do the work. Women want what they can't have. Trust me on this one. Give her the same treatment. She'll notice right away. It'll seem weird & hard to do. And it may even backfire in the short term. But in the long term it'll pay off. Trust me on this one.
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@ADHD Sloth, sounds like you need a girl's perspective here. Honestly, whenever a girl cancels plans with a guy, it's usually because she's not that interested. She may have gotten bored, and if that's the case, you need to change it up a bit. However, reading your predicament, it appears this girl is a huge d!ck, and you deserve better than someone who would just blow you off like that. I'm really sorry, and I wish you the best, but you can do a lot better than a girl who treats you like that. Good luck.
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@ADHD Sloth, well unless i meet the girl i wont know you have to do something she likes if she is into sports get vip seats to a game she supports, if she likes fine dinning take her to a famous restaurant its all about your willingness to fork out that extra money but when your done the memory of that night will be worth the money
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@Mr Brightside, it's not really the cancellation of plans that is annoying but more so the way it feels when we hang out together. Plus she's quite beautiful so whenever I'm sitting next to her or talking to her and leave to do something there's always another guy that takes my place. I know I can't help that she's attractive, but it's just another thing that keeps me from being able to talk one on one with her. But thanks for all of your help this is why this place is so great.
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@ADHD Sloth, Personally, I think she's having cold feet about it. It could be a defense, she's protecting herself from getting hurt by getting too close and having the rug pulled out from under her feet. Alternatively, maybe her idea of a relationship is different from yours. I suggest talking to her about it on the phone since she won't meet you without friends. Ask her what's up. And if you still want her then accept what she tells you. Back off a little, give her time and leeway to work through it. But let her know what you need too. And give her time to come around to your needs as well. And if she won't...then it just isn't meant to be :/
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@ADHD Sloth, See the secret with girls, especially younger girls, is that they like a challenge. It's unfortunate that we must play games, but unfortunately it is true. It will e difficult to do this with this girl because of where it's at, but what would be perfect is if she tries to make plans with you. Kindly decline and say you have other plans. This would hopefully make her wonder why you weren't so eager to drop plans for her (like the old you would) hopefully she'll try again to make plans, it would be risky but recommended to decline plans a second time to really sink the hook. If she doesn't ever try to make plans that messes up this plan. So play hard to get. Like I said, girls like a challenge.
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@TheBigQ, hey ADHD sloth, don't listen to TheBigQ, advice to surprise her with something big and romantic? This is a sure fire way for her to completely cut off communication. She's unsure how she feels. Like I said in other messages, girls like a challenge. If you surprise her with something romantic, you give up any 'challenge' to her and she will completely lose interest.
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@Statefarmer, what challenge do you girls want. 'Hey i really like this guy an he likes me too why don't i just make way more harder for him and me to ever be together by completely ignoring' plus if she was unsure about her feeling then she should have never have told him that she like hims because if she did that unsure of here feeling then thats just plan evil women ( drake bells voice ) evil
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@TheBigQ, hey I replied, but app crashed. Unfortunately we do need to play hard to get, I had a girl confess she liked me, when I was in school, I told her I liked her too, and she avoided me like the plague... It something psychological that makes a girl want what they can't have. Sorry to bash your comment btw, I wasn't trying to start a war with you, I'm just tryin to help this guy
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@ADHD Sloth, you know what the same thing happened to me a few weeks ago. It could just be that shes not ready for a relationship at the moment. And if thats the case just leave it as a friendship... For now. Eventually if she really does like you she will probally change her mind. Other than that dont try to be something your not and rush something.
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@ADHD Sloth, Definitely give her some space. Don't ALWAYS wait for her to initiate conversation, then you'll start to look uninterested, but make sure you don't always start it. Also, I wouldn't push the issue of her feelings anymore. She told you she likes you, she likes you. Perhaps wanting her friends around is because she wants neutral ground. You gotta ease into things man, don't charge head first.
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@ADHD Sloth, I'm assuming you two are both under 18? Another piece of advice, don't invest too much in a crush. You are going to meet tons of beautiful girls in your life, that's not to say don't go for it and not enjoy the ride. Just make sure you can accept that this is more than likely not permanent. If it happens at all. The biggest mistake I made with romantic interests when I was a teenager was becoming over bearing when a girl said she liked me. Also, under NO CIRCUMSTANCE should you tell this girl you love her until you've been together for a long time. It's not cute it seems desperate and it will ruin any chance you had. Learn to differentiate love and infatuation, and discipline yourself!
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@ADHD Sloth, I don't think you should play hard to get, especially if she is attractive. In my experience it leads to the girl moving on. Find something she really likes and wants to do and do that. And if anything go to a movie. Movies are fun and she will be more willing to go with you. Just dinner sounds boring, and is prolly why she wanted to invite people/canceled. In fact i would suggest not going to dinner till the second date, unless she mentions wanting to go to dinner. Also have u told her ur feelings? Would be something to do. Def dont do what statefarmer suggests. And the last piece of advice is to have fun. If ur serious and nervous then ur going to come off as boring. Be spontaneous and have fun flirting and talking or whatever u do. Let me know how it goes
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@ADHD Sloth, she is probably confused about her feelings and don't know how to give you a reply. But she doesn't want to hurt you so she said she likes you. I think it would be better for you to move on. I have once agreed to go out with a guy just because I was rushed. It didn't turm out well... So you can either give her sometime or just confirm her feelings again. Be reassuring about it if you can :)
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@ADHD Sloth, You should give it time. My boyfriend waited and become my bestfriend until he ignored me. That made me love him even more. I cancel plans because i'm not ready to be alone with a boy. She probably wants to bring a friend because of that reason. She probably doesn't want to reply because she is confused and shy on how she feels. She didn't just straight up tell you she liked you so that tells me shred is a little shy. Have patience and letting her text you first is a great way to make this go better. Hope everything works out for you man
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