Can anyone give me advice on what to do about the fact my fiancée and parents hate each other (my parents are very controlling and I started standing up for myself more when we started dating) to the point where if I do something my parents ask it has the potential to piss off my fiancée and if I do something she asks it pisses off my parents. What I really want to do is tell them to just fing get along and stop acting like they are both entitled to me that much. I just want people to get along but they refuse to. They hate each other mainly because my dad can be sexist and while my fiancée isn't a feminist she still has a line, and my parents don't like her because she can be spur of the moment idea kind of person and because she doesn't go along with their idea of a lifestyle of rigidness.
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@Slightly Used Spork, sounds like the problem is your parents. You can have a sit down with your parents (without your fiancee) and tell them you understand she isn't what they would want, but she's marrying you, not them. She makes you happy and that should be all that matters. Please treat her with respect because if you don't, I won't be coming by as much. It's your choice.
@Oujosh29, I get a lot of crap from them about "seeing where my priorities lie" because they feel I'm picking her over family when the fact is that she's becoming my own family
@Oujosh29, maybe they'll agree, maybe not. If they don't, you tried, and you could stop coming around as much. The fiancee will probally be the mother of your kids, which means she's going to be more important than your parents, and you gotta do what you gotta do.
@Slightly Used Spork, your priority lies with your wife (Not to say no one else matters, but there is a hierarchy) and once kids come in to the picture, your parents go way down the list.
@Oujosh29, thanks, that actually helps
@Slightly Used Spork, went through something similar with my parents and wife. How I looked at is I'm choosing to start a new family with her and to live with her the rest of my life. I had to talk to my parents to explain that she wasn't taking me away from them, I was choosing to start a new family with her.
@men in yellow suits, good point. They have an issue with seeing logic though. Like if you use logic that counters their point they feel as if you're being disrespectful. I was supposed to go camping with them this weekend but had to back out last minute because the pastor at the church I go to (different from my parents) had a meeting with my fiancée's family and I was told it was devastating news I needed to be there for on Sunday when he made it public. I told them I could go Friday and head back Saturday night and they got pissed and said either go or don't. Then mom starts playing the victim card and I feel like a d1ck
@Slightly Used Spork, mate, that is pure emotional blackmail, I have it a lot with my family, lot easier to deal with when you recognise it as such
@Slightly Used Spork, I can't offer much in the way of advice beyond being honest with your feelings. If they don't respect you, how can you respect them? You're an adult and you have to live your life for you, not your parents.
I wish you luck.
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