She should make better decisions
it hurts my entire lower half some days just to stand for a few minutes when I'm on my period. I'll be damned if I wouldnt stand up for her.
Never willingly suffer for someone else’s life choices. Ever.
@ChineseTakeout, I wouldn’t say standing up for the length of a subway ride is “suffering”
@ChineseTakeout, I'm assuming you're a straight male, so say your wife is pregnant and on the subway, you wouldn't want someone who is perfectly fine to give up their seat for her?
@18bluecat, I mean to be fair in this imaginary situation we have no idea if the person we want to give their seat to the pregnant lady is in a worse medical situation. I mean without knowing they could well have some serious conditions of their own. I’m just saying people shouldn’t always glare at the person not giving their seat up to someone they may not just being a jerk they may need it more.
Not that I’m saying don’t give up your seat if someone looks like they need it but don’t just assume you need it more then someone else.
@George Feeny, I understand that which is why I proposed a new scenario in which the person in the seat is perfectly fine (in hindsight I should have said healthy)
@18bluecat, giving up one's seat may be polite, but I don't think someone is rude for not giving up their seat. And that pregnant lady is by no means entitled to a seat.
@Doctor Yak, I disagree, I believe the elderly, disabled/injured, and pregnant are entitled to a seat UNLESS they're rude. No, you don't have to give up your seat, but I think you should and I would
@18bluecat, in my opinion, the elderly and infirmed are different from pregnant women because, more often than not their condition is not their fault, whereas most pregnant women choose to get pregnant, or at the very least choose to stay pregnant. Therefore, old, sick, and injured people have more of a claim to an already occupied seat than a pregnant woman. Granted, I personally would give my seat to any of them, including pregnant women, but I'd also defend someone else's right to stay seated if they decided they didn't want to give it up (probably by offering my own seat to resolve the situation with minimal conflict if I'm being honest).
@Doctor Yak, can you really fault someone for getting pregnant though? That's kind of like another step of life. Yes it's their fault but society expects people to raise a family which means women must get pregnant (or adopt but other women still need to get pregnant for that option to exist). I don't know which one of us is right but I do enjoy this healthy debate
@18bluecat, i agree. Healthy discourse is my favorite. And, I don't fault people for getting pregnant. I'm glad someone's doing it, because I personally don't ever want to raise a child, and I'm pretty sure the world doesn't want that either. Lol. However, I don't think that pregnancy affords someone concessions from strangers. I will concede the idea that the person refusing the seat is insensitive and rude though. You have convinced me that it's both easy enough for the seated person and beneficial enough to the pregnant woman that for a healthy individual to refuse to give their seat is a dick move.
@18bluecat, then yea, only a dick wouldn’t give up the seat. Sorry I missed that part in your original comment my bad.
Right? These damn self entitled woman just because they pregnant ... adding in lol so people know I'm joking
@megamanx181x, is... is that a black joke?
@Doctor Yak, oh my gosh I didn’t realize!! THATS EVEN FUNNIER!!
Hate to say it but this is kinda true
@EddySteady, I don't understand what you're referring to as true?
@EddySteady, Buying a car if you live in NYC and work in NYC can be a tremendous waste. Most of the time, the subway + some walking will get you anywhere you need to be.
@EddySteady, Or maybe she’s in a city or on vacation?
@Rtas Vadum, Pretty much. On top of that the parking situation is awful! You end up spending more paying for parking tickets than gas in your car.