My parents will not go for that
Being a Mexican sheep I get hit with a chancla from 32 miles away if i even think of disrespecting my mom. 100 miles away if it's mi abuelita throwing.
@crazysheep, Can confirm. I'm on the toilet and a chancla appeared out of nowhere and smacked me in the face the second I read this post.
@crazysheep, white mom's make you choose your own switch. but it doesn't stop there. they will then manipulate you into thanking them for teaching you the lesson you needed to learn. don't fûck with white mom's.
I think when the author said “stand up” he means calling his mom a bitch. Yeah, I’m white and if I ever did that, I can’t even imagine what would happen. I curse like a sailor, but haven’t sworn in front of my mom since I drank vinegar when I was 10. My dad would just put me through the wall (F is for Family reference) needless to say I have seen such disrespect for parents and it makes me want to do the dishes when I get home
@Hockman9, yeah I thought it was the other way around. White people usually don’t stand up to their parents.
Side note: how does a black person stand up to their parents when they only have their single mother in the house
They must be whiter than white if they think it’s okay to disrespect their parents
@Tom Bottom, disrespecting your parents and standing up for your own values are different though
@pirey, not to some parents
@Tom Bottom, I completely respect my parents but there are definitely some situations where I had to stand up and say something to them. Whether it was something they were doing or saying that was completely inappropriate sometimes I feel it's necessary. Idk if that's what you mean exactly but that's how I feel.
@jouze, dude.... I want to hug you right now.
@pirey, yes they’re different, but in most situations, one can not stand up without the consequence of disrespect. I understand that the relationship changes completely after moving out and growing up, but while under their household, it’s only fair that they have authority over their children. Of course there are always the extremes in which standing up is the absolute answer, like in cases of abuse or the infringements of civil/natural rights. But in the common situations of parents grounding kids or parents refusing their children’s requests (like going somewhere or buying something new), there’s no need for the retaliation of “standing up” as it only denies a parent’s just authority over their children. So the disrespect does not come from simply defending against the parents, but rather, defending oneself during times where parents are just doing their jobs as parents.
@pirey, (Also I do not mean to direct this at you pirey as it’s only just a expansion of my thoughts. And I apologize to anyone who have had bad relations with their parents that may have felt like my first post ignored the ability for parents to do wrong. Everyone’s situation is different, and that should always be considered during any argument.)
@Tom Bottom, true but I feel like you can stand up to them without disrespecting them for some things. Like them being super religious and forcing you to go to church every chance they get while you're not. You can stand up for your views in a respectful way. While I agree that parents should have authority over their children it is also part of their job to equip the child with the ability to stand up for their views.
@Tom Bottom, the nature of this discussion is whether there is an inherent disrespect to the act of standing up to one’s parents as a child, and I think that depends on the validity of the child’s objection, which is an entirely subjective judgement that should be based on a case by case merit.
If my daughter decides that she wants to stop attending piano classes because she finds the act of learning the piano to be unbearably uncomfortable, her objection to my insistence that she attend is reasonable. Conversely, if she’s kicking and screaming on the floor because I refuse to buy her a pony, that’s disrespectful on multiple levels, and is unacceptable behaviour.
Standing up to your parents is not something that should be relegated to extreme exceptions like abuse. If you’re ten years old, and you don’t like it when your dad calls you “kiddo”, the proper response is to politely tell your dad that you don’t like that, and why you don’t like it.
It’s not just about when you stand up,
how you stand up to people matters just as much as why.
@Tom Bottom, People should respect that parents have a lot more experience than them for most of their life, but I believe it is perfectly reasonable for a child to stand up to their parents if they believe their parents have been unjust or acted out of order.
@I Are Lebo, that's the perfect way to put it.
@Autismo, thank you for saying so.
Are you coming out to your parents? Like... do they not know you’re black?