These all seem creepy
@ORGANIC, I believe that was the point
@ORGANIC, While they might be a little creepy, they would all probably just warrant a "hey thanks man!" From me.
@ORGANIC, see but I’d have no issue with the top two happening to me from guys. The bottom left it’s just meant to be condescending, and the bottom right is just always creepy lol
@ORGANIC, There’s totally a difference between polite and flirtatious.
@dogsowar2000, “you’re way too pretty to be a cashier, doll face”
“Hey thanks, man!”
Yeah but I'm not unconsciously driven by eons of evolution to try to attract men. If women did this, most men would be fine with it.
@ReeseBobby, I'd be wierded the fück out by it. I would probably think that they were patronizing me or were a bit off their rockers.
@Doctor Krieger, I think that's only because it's out of the ordinary. Although the bottom left seems to be constructed to be condescending.
@ReeseBobby, but....all of these are off-putting, condescending, or creepy. Are you saying guys acting like this to women is them trying to attract women? (Spoiler alert: women hate this shít)
@Carmen Sandiego, considering that I have yet to witness myself or any male in my presence receive a compliment from anyone. (other than "you're good at x can you help me with y") 3/4 of these would probably be welcomed by most men, which is usually why they say them to women. They mistakenly believe that by giving the thing they hope to receive (spontaneous compliments) women will reciprocate. All I'm saying is that trying to make a point about how men treat women by comparing it to how men treat men is a dumb idea because the dynamic is different.
@ReeseBobby, don't compliment me, just don't ride my ass either. That's my preference.
@Carmen Sandiego, everyone hates this shìt.
@ReeseBobby, I'm a guy and any of these would creep me the hell out, even if from a woman.
The thing is, this crap usually comes from unattractive, slightly creepy, usually older men. The analogy would be an unattractive, slightly creepy, older woman saying these 'compliments' to a younger man. No thank you.
If someone actually wants to have sex with you, you don't need to do these things.
@ReeseBobby, it actually makes me kind of sad to read these comments and find out a lot of people don't see these things as anything but compliments. Maybe guys and girls should start giving guys genuine compliments (not this stuff) more, so they can see the difference between those and what's shown in the comic. And then they'd stop saying these sorts of comments to women. Hey guys! I fixed sexism!
@Carmen Sandiego, The thing is, from a young age, men are taught that they are expected to do things, like fixing stuff. At the same time, the world expects it. Things that people do that are expected usually don't warrant a compliment. Men usually get nothing more than a "thank you" after doing something.
@Sir LancesALot, right--so it's easy to see how this stuff can get misconstrued, and how guys might think they're just being nice when saying this stuff. The problem is that these "compliments" aren't really compliments. For example look at the one where the guy is impressed that he fixed his computer. Since the dude with the laptop makes a living fixing computers, it's insulting to have someone assume he isn't capable and be "impressed" that he fixed it. The words sound nice, but who wants to say thank you when someone basically says they didn't believe you could do your job until you proved it to them?
@Carmen Sandiego, I know, that's why I only compliment people who compliment me.
@Doctor Krieger, wow, girls flirt with me all the time, before I show them my wedding ring. Read a book called The Art of Seduction, and your problems will be solved.
@Carmen Sandiego, no they don’t. They love it. Perhaps I’m just good at saying what I know each girl would like, since every person is unique.
@Child Slapper, okay, I generalized--let me rephrase: "based upon my own life and experience, it is my perception that comments such as the ones shown in the panels above are usually seen as offensive by the receiver, no matter how well-intentioned the sayer of these comments was." Better?
@Carmen Sandiego, I see your point there. I guess I’ve used those 4 compliments, but I’ve said them im ways that aren’t stupid like in the panels. Like first stating the statistic about how smiling improves a person’s beauty by (made up)%, so I can see why that smile looks great on you ;)
And of course it can’t be a random stranger.
Yea but if it was a girl giving the compliments i think itd be fine. Because who doesnt want a girl hitting on them
@PandaPoots, except girls don't see this as being hit on, this kind of stuff doesn't come across as a compliment. It comes off as kinda creepy or at least uncomfortable and condescending
@PandaPoots, key word there..."girl".
(I hate to repeat myself from another reply I just made, but) imagine this coming from a much older, slightly creepy, unattractive woman. Still want the 'compliment'?
These things rarely come from young, attractive men where the girl might be interested (even then, they could still be warranted in feeling creeped out by a total stranger).
That would be amazing. It would be good to hear someone say it, because gods know I don't hear it at home and will never hear it from myself.
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@Average Immortal, FVCK YOU YOU GAWD DAMN COMMIE BASTARD!
I personally wouldn’t give a shìt, but I can understand why it would bother some people
Reading these comments I just wanna put out there... you know this kind of stuff isn't nice to hear, right? These aren't compliments. That's like the whole point of the comic. Girls get this kind of stuff all the time. Feels kinda weird if you try and imagine being in their shoes because this kind of stuff is weird, not nice.
This isn’t being polite, it’s hinting at attraction with the other person.
Am i the only guy who has heard versions of these exact phrases from older women?
Maybe the fact that it isn't pervasive to the same extent, or the fact that the women who have said these sort of things hold no power or even suggest a sense of threat or fear, or because those comments don't escalate into more harassing comments, or that they're generally rare for me to experience as a guy than a woman, but it didn't bother me or creep me out.
Of course that doesn't i think it shouldn't bother anyone or that I don't believe those who say it does. Just sharing my reality. To me the comic just shows how odd putting 2 men in a situation based on a man and a woman can be even in an age where many are leaving gender roles behind.
But I get why it was made. For some men it's not enough for women to just say I don't like that so stop please.
This actually happened to me yesterday. I was talking to a rando on the bus and he called me handsome out of nowhere.
A compliment is a compliment.
Working in retail I've actually gotten all except the first one.....so what's this post's point?
I don't think it's a problem
I agree that sometimes men talk down to women or make rude comments but men treat other men like sh1t all the time. It’s not a gender issue. There are just a$$holes out there. Lastly women can say some pretty mean things to men but we don’t talk about that.
I dunno, I’d be fine with it.
I get the argument the artist is trying to make which is if it's weird to do this to guys don't do it to girls. But in a truly accepting society you SHOULD be able to be blindly polite to one another. Plus this depicts the idea of being gay and flirting as a negative. If someone compliments you for seemingly no reason it shouldn't be viewed as harassment. Just be happy you're worth complimenting
Waiter, there’s social politics in my funny pics!
That would be gay. Actually, I’ve had gay guys say things that were pretty close to all of these, except the cashier one.
They are polite to each other. When they’re gay haha
Except for that first one I've had all those said to me before (well close anyway)
It's uncomfortable because it's unnatural here. A girl can be cute without me being attracted to her personally