As a kid, I hated this. As a parent, I totally get not having to explain every. Single. Decision. I. Ever. Make.
@big freedom, my best friends son is like this. I lived with her for a while and sort of became like a father figure to him bc his actual dad is a piece of shjt. I totally feel you.
@big freedom, I wish I could upvote this comment more than once!
@big freedom, Yeah, I really hate that I’m already there as a father, but there’s just not enough time in the goddamn day.
@big freedom, I hated this too. But I do make an active effort to explain why because everything has a reason.
Ive only had to use a similar sentence “my car my rules” once. And it was when they didn’t like my explanation that I didn’t want the little kids having an open can or leaky sippy cup in my car because there was a risk of a mess.
Well the sippy cup wasnt so much leaky. But any parent thats put soda in them knows how the carbonation forces liquid out if shook or dropped. And sure enough even with a towel down. The little one dropped it during the drive as I expected. Luckily the drop was on my weather tech floor mats and there wasn’t much left in the cup.
@Berntley, I always try to explain why. Its usually when that explanation is followed by another why I tell them there are plenty of sources for learning. Go research it.
Or if they dont accept my explanation.
@Seohn, Can’t exactly tell my four year old to look it up. I don’t mind explaining most things. It’s just when I give some kind of directive, then have to explain myself, and then explain myself even further that I get really tired, really fast. To piggy back off your own example, if I tell my daughter she can’t bring a drink in the car, and she asks why, I’m more than happy to explain that I don’t want it to get spilled in my car, but if she asks for MORE, I’m not exactly gonna go into matters of resale value and sticky floor mats. You get one tier of explanation, and you insist on more, then I’m pulling out the old “because I said so”
@big freedom, this is implying they’re taking the well thought out argument over the ‘because I said so’ excuse.
@Berntley, My point was. I never just say, “because I said so”, as my first examination why. With my car the explanation was simple. Theres a chance it will spill and I dont want my car dirty. Has nothing to do with resale as I’ll likely never sell it. I just dont want to have to clean it. Plus I take care of my car. If that answer still isn’t acceptable. Which on that day apparently wasn’t for my 16yr old niece trying to argue with me thinking I didn’t know better when giving a sippy cup of soda to my 4 yr old niece. Then yeah its my car, my stuff, my rule when the first explanation wasnt good enough.
I have an 8yr old daughter. I already made the mistake of sippy full of soda. So her implying the little one wont drop it and itll be fine. Wasn’t going to fly. Because I know the outcome. And sure enough it happened. Only the seats were protected because we put a towel down and I have good floor mats.
@Seohn, I think we’re on the same page, then, essentially, just at different places in our parenting, with a four year old being far less susceptible to rational explanation than a sixteen year old.
Yo mama be one ugly woman...
You can’t win, and heaven help you if you do!
@Mawaneu, Just like with most women, ami right?
@fettman1138, Im beginning to think its not that men dont understand. Its that some people hate losing an argument and aren’t all that skilled at explaining themselves.
So they toss “well men dont ever seem to understand” as an excuse when you point out the hypocrisy of their actions and the argument they are making.
There are very few things in this world I dont understand. I may not always like some things but I always understand how it works or why its like that. I have no issues understanding or seeing another persons point of view either. But using “well men dont understand” is a bullsh!t arguement when talking to me.
If I dont understand its because that person is p!ss poor at explaining themself. And me pointing out them being a hypocrite doesn’t mean I “dont understand”.
I pretty much used this exact argument the other day. When someone tried to play that line on me. I’d had enough of that excuse. And them being a hypocrite.
@fettman1138, As a side note. I know you were making a joke. I found it funny but wanted to point out for the people who blame someone for not understanding. That they should look at themselves first.