Seriously never ask a fireman, police officer, military member, etc. This question. You are literally gaining pleasure from something that more than likely causes them immense emotional pain.
@PoliticalOtters, "which devastating trauma did you enjoy the most?"
@PoliticalOtters, or "did you ever kill anyone?"
@PoliticalOtters, what is the most joyful thing in your job?
Was it the crackling of the fire that drowned the scream of pain of burning victims?
@PoliticalOtters, "I'm looking at 'em" works for me.
@PoliticalOtters, I know a crime scene investigator who loves to tell fvcked up stories about the dead people he’s investigated. He told me about a dead homeless guy he got called to look at. Homeless guy ha his hand frozen in a C shape. So the investigator and his friends lit the guy a cigarette and gave him a beer to put in his hand. And that was one of his more innocent stories
@BearDaniels, I have a friend who is a police officer, and he also routinely shares messed up shjt with me. Told me he was shot at three separate times in one week with a smile.
@The Omega Username, its one of our coping measures. Works for most, but the person with the story has to initiate it.
@PoliticalOtters, yes, thank you
@Firefighter95, yea man there are some things I only share with other fire fighters. I've learned that most people who aren't in the business want to know some things, until they find out. Then, they wish they didn't know. I'm doing them a service and they don't even know it. There are also some things I don't talk about at all. In that case, I'm doing myself the service by not reliving the experience.
@BearDaniels, ... Now I want to hear more..
@BearDaniels, LE jobs tend to attract people that really shouldn't be in the career.
@PoliticalOtters, us paramedics always seem to get forgotten in lists like this... :(
@phalcon , one of my best friends is a paramedic, and it broke him. Thanks to a lot of therapy and a change of job (from extremely high volume call area to firefighter/paramedic in a recreational area) he is doing very well now.
Thank you for your service, and take care of yourself. Do not be afraid to seek mental help when it becomes too much- it’s just as much an injury as a bad back or blown knee.
@phalcon , I think about this a lot actually. Paramedics saved my life a couple years ago, brought me back from the brink. I wonder sometimes if my experience affects them at all, especially where the instance was rather rare. Thank you for all you do.
@PoliticalOtters, Agreed, I have responded to my share of nasty calls, they always say you will remember the good ones, but it's the bad ones that don't go away. Still, I wouldn't trade this job for the world
@SWAT the fireman, I'm a peace officer, and... Same. I actually write all of my screwed up stuff in a journal. It helps me deal when humor doesn't cut it. And it's there for anyone who wants to know. I can hand them that. Most don't want to ask questions after browsing it a bit.
@phalcon , usually, paramedics just get thrown in with Fire.
@PoliticalOtters, I’ve always thought that was a given. But unfortunately, it seems that I’m wrong
@RogueKnight, which is unfortunate, because where I am from the majority of us are not firefighters at all. Pretty much all of Canada paramedics are independant of fire.
@phalcon , I'll have to make sure I correct people (Including myself) to mention paramedics and EMTs by name in the future, then. Your profession definitely counts in this!
@RogueKnight, I mean it's not a big deal, but many seem to forget paramedics.
Consider how many die during medivac in the states to, they are not dual medic/fire.
Heck where I work sometimes fire doesn't even back us up even when we ask. They only come to like car crashes and such.
It's not a big deal, but I just wanted to point out, for tend of thousands of us, EMS and fire are not dual professions.
Also the irony... Those who are dual fire EMS? Tend to do more EMS calls than fire calls...
It's almost like the firefighter role is the secondary job that fire services do...
A was I'm now stated a much needed 28 day vacation. Had a rough couple weeks recently, thankfully ended this week with a save.
@phalcon , here most of our fire guys are dual paramedics. But we have private companies who are paramedics/EMS only.
And it is important. You guys have a lot of the same ups and downs as cops and fire.
I hope the vacation helps out with what you're going through. And getting a save is a great way to start!
@RogueKnight, paramedic/Army medic here. It can be rough. Especially in a small town or overseas where it's not uncommon that you know your patients.
@PoliticalOtters, wait....do people actually ask this question?
Where's the funny?
Wtf. This isnt even remotely funny. This is just depressing. And who's the @sshole asking someone a question like this??
@PunnyBaker, you would be suprised
@PunnyBaker, I get that question on a very regular basis.
@SWAT the fireman, i'll admit it is a question thats gone thru my mind but i know how messed up those jobs can be and its messed up to ask someone that. I have an RCMP friend and ucle they've told a few stories before but they bring them up, i dont ask first
@PunnyBaker, my law enforcement admin professor was a cop for over 20 years and said that he gets the question “so have you ever killed anyone?” quite frequently, and hates it of course
@tampon theif, my friend said the same thing. Some people get hardended by it and become unphased by death and gore and others (like her) get more affected by it. I asked her once if she ever had to pull her gun out and that question alone bothered her. She said doing that is a last resort and it only happens when she legit thinks her life is threatened.
@PunnyBaker, most people aren't asking to be rude, they just don't realize what exactly they are asking.
@Firefighter95, nothing beats taking leave to get asked the questions that RIP you out of leave and put you back in them find memories
@PunnyBaker, was an emt before I joined the coast guard and I get this question every time I report to a new unit
@Firefighter95, I don’t know why I’m shocked...but I’m shocked. Like “ohh nice to meet you, please tell me your trauma” I do not understand that.
@zerbrasombraro, People have a way of letting their morbid curiosity get out without realizing it is more than theoretical that emergency services see people die or be seriously messed up. The oc of this cartoon has a TON of great fire related problems for us on the job btw.
This is why I always ask them what the weirdest thing they've seen is. Not bland, or emotionally devastating.
@Lysander99, I saw a meteor explode above my medivac, lit up the night sky like day.
I have a friend who is a member of a small town police force and I’ve heard some traumatic stories that I can’t imagine living through. Mostly public knowledge stuff I never bothered to look up bc it isn’t my town. Nothing sensitive, of course.
I always ask what's the funniest thing you've ever dealt with.
I figure, with all the depressing stuff they endure, it would help to focus on the rare good moments.
@CaseCat, like a lady complaining about a boisterous dog after you’ve gotten off a 14 hour swat duty for a sex trafficking bust.
Me: Say it with cash
What a funny pic!!! Lolololol
gotta learn how to reply properly darn phone
As a former marine, a lot of people ask me these kinds of questions. I usually dodge the question or straight up lie but even when the conversation is over my memories keep lingering.
As a firefighter More often we see people die than live. But its usually the lives you save that stick with you, and usually the loved ones of deceased victims are thankful to have the department there as long as we do our best to save the victim.
Its not a question you want us to answer
Crime Scene Investigation in Detroit here. Same thing. I understand that people get curious, but there are legitimately things that you don't want to know. And when people keep asking me for stories, I specifically choose those to be the ones I tell. You can see the excitement drain from their faces.
After they tell me the horrific tale, I always smile and say "that was one of mine!"
Then we laugh.
WE'VE FINALLY ESCAPED THE LOSS FOREST, MY GOD! Oh no, they got Frank!