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@ptitty1231, I'd like to just straight call you out and tell you you're full of crap, but I will acknowledge that it is certainly a possibility. There are a lot of people that go into it with bad faith and the wrong mindset. With the way society brings people up, some have it in their head that they can't be happy with just one person and feel the need to hide things from those close to them, then they can just call "poly" and it honestly upsets me that people do that. You aren't poly because you need more than one person in your life in a romantic context to be happy. For me at least it's not that I'm not happy unless I have more than one person to be involved with. I was involved with the same person for years and they made me happy. And we came to the conclusion that if other people can also make us happy then it would be wrong to put restrictions on ourselves and miss out on something beautiful. We don't need other people but we are willing to let other people into our lives
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@Slayer9200, and see if they can add to it. There isn't a limit on what can make you happy, and if finding different things about different people that make you happy helps you live your best life then I think that's beautiful. But don't get me wrong, I see where you're coming from. There is a lot of stigma surrounding the idea and a decent number of people with bad intentions do try to use the term to justify their actions, and it's a legitimate lifestyle that has its risks. But it has the potential to be beautiful.
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@Slayer9200, it's not a legitimate lifestyle, if you have to put so many addendum attached to it. Monogamy is the most stable way to construct society. Not by lineage or property rights. But to enshrine the virtue of woman's rights and equalities. Simple fact of being, people are selfish, jealous and envious. A person that has a stable life will be happier then those with unknown prospects. A woman is with a man on a biological and evolutionary level to gain access to his resources in exchange for prodigy. That's why cheating is such an instinctual gut-level feeling. So, to have the promotion of such a destructive force be couched in so much uncertainty, from you, it's comical.
Polyamorous relationships have a rate of mistrust and deceit, STDS, and manipulative behavior. What you REALLY want is a waifu/husbando harem that has all the women/men devoted to you instead of having their own wants and ambitions