Seriously, I just want someone to truly love and care for me the same way I will for them. I'm fvcking tired of giving all I have to the other person just for them to give less than half in return. Maybe I should move the hell out of Florida and look somewhere else.
@ TouchMyCatEars, dont worry. You will. And yes, move the fvck out of Florida.
@ThePandaPool , thank you Panda. :)
You got any recommendations for another state? I've never lived outside of America's dick before.
@ TouchMyCatEars, Tennessee!!! We have one of the lowest taxes, much cheaper rent, tons of things to do and get yourself a good country boy!!! That shirt you have on will come in very handy to lure one in. Also... what happened to that old man you with?
@ TouchMyCatEars, depends what you do for a living, otherwise its preference. Lots of good work and things to do here in NY if you dont mind snow. Nevada is pretty great if you like the desert. Virginia was looking good, but politics are turning that state into crap.
@ThePandaPool , as a virgin- I mean Virginian that doesn't do anything other than go to work and go home. They have politics here? Lol I'm terrible at this adulting crap, I just wanna earn my paycheck and play videogames.
@JiggleMyPuffs, just dont break 80 on the highway on the ride home or you'll be getting put away with a felony.
and that is where civil war 2 was about to start when they tried to ban many guns and the sheriffs refused to enforce the law. at which point the government threatened to bring in the national guard.
@seeUpee, I'm still with him but I'm not sure for how much longer.. I like this guy, a lot. I even said the L word but never got it back from him. It's been 3 and a half years now and I'm putting my whole heart in and feel like I'm not getting much in return. I've seen phone calls in his phone that shouldn't be there, some texts. Found out he was doing shady stuff when we first got together. I have looked passed all that shjt hoping for something better than what I had for 10+ years I was with my ex-husband but I'm not sure how much more I can take with this. I fell for this guy, hard. But I'm getting broken little by little everyday and I feel stuck.
@ThePandaPool , Im back in school online but the degree I'm going for can be used pretty much everywhere. Nevada has always interested me, it's either that or move out this country. Always wanted to go to England. But I'd visit a place before trying to move there permanently.
@ TouchMyCatEars, i cant suggest you move where I live because 1 expensive as shït , 2 too many people moving in, 3 it’s hard to get a job that will pay your bills and rent
@ TouchMyCatEars, oh freaking hell! That sounds just terrible. Yes you do need to put your foot down and no shady stuff. He needs to come clean and commit or you need to move on even if is extremely hard. Three years devoted to this guy is a long time. I believe is time you had “the talk” see what his intentions are, if there is a future and confront him on any suspicions. You are too old (no offense) to be beating around the bush and need to get yourself a good man! A good companion! You deserve to be loved and to be happy!
@DrSin, so where is it that you live? Chicago?
@DrSin, where's that?
@seeUpee, I dropped enough hints for you people to figure it out..... one more , basketball team is called the nuggets
@ TouchMyCatEars, it’s where the sun sets on a mountain range
@seeUpee, I confronted him before. He says he's afraid of me leaving him in 10 years due to the age difference and that I'm so sexual and will become unsatisfied with him one day. He said he feels like I'm missing out and will realize it too late and blame him for holding me back from life. I don't feel like that but I'm not sure he believes it.
@ TouchMyCatEars, that’s rough. I hope you get everything sorted out with him. If he won’t commit after years of being together or even say that he loves you, it might be time to cut your losses unfortunately. Especially if it’s effecting you on a deeper level. No relationship is worth you feeling broken, you’re worth far more then that.
No matter what you decide I wish you the best of luck and hope you end up with someone that makes you happy, someone that actually deserves to have you in their life
@ TouchMyCatEars, That is what viagra is for if that is the case. You love who you love. None of those were really good reasons... in my case with my ex that after over a year all she kept on doing was giving me excuses of why we needed to break up pretty much. For us it was a little different and a big thing bc I wanted kids and she didn’t. She saw no future with me not having kids bc Im great with kids and she knew I would make a great dad one day, but not with her. She took my heart and threw it away as we parted ways. I loved the hell out of that girl but in the end she was right. It took me a while to process everything and to bounce back... but glad that I did. Found me a redhead that loves me unconditionally and even if I keep on doing stupid stuff and messing up (I would never cheat) she forgives my shenanigans. I can clearly say that I am happier now than I ever been. You need not to doubt anything and neither does he. If you are going to stay y’all need to be 100%
@seeUpee, you're one of the lucky ones and I'm so damn happy for you. I'll get there, I know it. I'm not THAT old either, lol.
@Natural Sarcasm, thank you, and thanks for caring. All y'all are so awesome. 💜
@ TouchMyCatEars, look how much love their is for everyone on this app, the community here is fücking awesome, and do help each other out , with kind words and good advice
@seeUpee, so have you figured out where I reside?
@DrSin, so weed is legal? You lucky bastard!
@ TouchMyCatEars, yeah okay, just don’t move to Texas.
@ TouchMyCatEars, also I feel for you. Those relationships are so toxic. Sounds like you need a clean wipe and a change of scenery. Easier said than done.
@DrSin, y'all are the only people I've actually had healthy relationships with. You don't judge, get mad, punish me with the silent treatment, or make me feel guilty for just being my weird and crazy self. Y'all LIKE the real me and I love all of you!
@ImNotRacistBut, ok, stay away from Texas. I can do that but I think I have family there that I've never met.. oh well.
And yes, toxic relationships are the worst so we're taking some time away from each other right now. Gonna do some thinking.
@ TouchMyCatEars, because we are all crazy and horrible to an extent in our own way, like my boss today asked what I wanted to do the most? I said punch babies, and said what the fück? I laughed and walked out of his office
@DrSin, I'm laughing right now, that's shjt is hilarious!
@ TouchMyCatEars, at work we are super professional, we actually ran into each other at a hockey game as fans, we ended up kicking off pretty well he is a short hairy Jewish man who enjoys a good dark dark joke, so when people are around we act professional, when it’s just us two it’s horrible dark jokes
@ TouchMyCatEars, oh, you have family here already? You’re good to go cuh.
@DrSin, that's awesome. My ex-husband got all our friends after I left so other than the bf's friends I haven't really had anyone for the last almost 4 years. Except y'all, but I'm totally fvckin fine with that. I'd choose you guys any day. This is such a great community and I honestly can't believe I ever left..
@ImNotRacistBut, y'all are the best family ever! We need a reunion.
@ TouchMyCatEars, you will absolutely find it!! Don’t rush it or you won’t find true love
@ TouchMyCatEars, London is awesome!! Colorado is ok if you like outside!! I’d move to Seattle in a heartbeat but not now after the stupid riots! Kansas City is highly underrated but it’s hot and humid!
@DrSin, Denver blows ass
@ TouchMyCatEars, You'll find someone, you kinky bitch
(Love you, cat ears ❤️)
Also where in Florida do you live? You and I need to have a party
@celtics313131, Seattle has always been right at the top of my list of places to move but everyone I tell always has something bad to say about it even though they've never been there! I still think about going for a week just to see how I'd like it. London though.. it's my dream! It sounds crazy but I feel like I belong there.
PS. heat and humidity don't bother me after being in FL all my life.
@The Lifeguard, St. Pete, yo! Where you be??
@ TouchMyCatEars, I'm in Gainesville! I used to live in the Tampa area (ish). Lutz is my hometown, if that rings a bell
@ TouchMyCatEars, I'm not sure what part of Florida you live in but I live in Tampa and from every other state and country I've been to Florida is my absolute favorite. The only other place that I think is possibly better is San Diego or San Francisco. but that also depends on what you're looking for exactly
@The Lifeguard, hell yeah, I worked in Lutz for a while a few years ago at Paradise Lakes Resort, if that rings a bell. *wink*
@PacificaPelican, honestly, I just want a place where the people are friendly and greet each other when they cross paths, good restaurants, nice scenery, water views, sunny. I know my state has a lot this but I want to be out of Florida within the next few years.
@ TouchMyCatEars, have you ever been to San Diego? What you described was basically my impression of it. Although the grass is not always greener because that describes Tampa as well imo but the people in San Diego all generally seem happier
@ TouchMyCatEars, Why the hell are you in Florida? You definitely deserve better than that, and yeah you also deserve some who reciprocates the love you have for them.
@ TouchMyCatEars, The amount of times I saw that sign as a kid and wondered "huh, I wonder what's in there." My parents had a restaurant in the land o lakes area and we'd get some less than clothed people in there sometimes 😅
@The Lifeguard, honest to god working there was great. The people were nice, tips were good, and I got dirt on my ex-inlaws. I'd go back in a heartbeat.
@PacificaPelican, no, never been. I've always lived in Florida and have only visited a couple of other states. San Diego sounds nice but California has scared me since I was a kid because I've never experienced an earthquake. I can sleep through a hurricane no problem but thinking about the earth shaking makes my anxiety go skyhigh!
@SimonPetrikov, I was born and raised here, everyone I know is here. The only 2 family members I give a damn about are here. I want to leave, but I also want to know if I can make it work with the guy Im still sort of seeing. He didn't want me to leave yesterday but I had to get out, I had to think about what I want, what's important, and who I want to share myself with. Trust me when I say that I feel a bit ridiculous hoping things will be better between the two of us, but seeing his face fall and the look of shock in his eyes when I told him I needed time to think kind of made me believe that he was positive I was leaving him and never coming back. He's not the type of guy to beg someone to stay either, he agrees with your decision and waits patiently until you're ready to talk it through and fix it. I just wanted to be alone to figure things out and then discuss it like adults. We'll see what happens.
@ TouchMyCatEars, I mean yeah there's really no getting around the earthquake risk. But I think the main fault line is pretty in the north of the state so San Diego is probably safer than other cities, maybe? But definitely visit. It's honestly a place that has to be experienced. But what about Florida makes you want to leave so bad? Just bored of it?
@ TouchMyCatEars, there’s many kinds of people out there - some will give as much/more than you, some will take it as an amazing surprise because they’d never think to do it themselves. These kinds of people may be different socially/romantically, it could be you’re going for/attracting type B when type A is right there and you didn’t consider them because they’re not your normal type - just a thought
@ TouchMyCatEars, It's good that he's giving you space, at least. Time apart is a good way to go about it. A couple of friends of mine separated for a bit recently, and came back together as a stronger couple. As rough as it is for either of you, it'll be good in the long run.
@celtics313131, those are fighting words .... wait how do you know what team..... wait wtf
@ TouchMyCatEars, though some of us like to argue. And sometimes we say mean things.
@ TouchMyCatEars, try costal North or South Carolina
@ TouchMyCatEars, it will happen! You should definitely get out of that cess pool and be around normal people
@ TouchMyCatEars, might I suggest not a big city then? I live in a small town in the middle of Pennsylvania where within a year or two you won't be able to go anywhere without seeing people you know, especially if you were to join certain social groups. My town specifically has one of the best breweries in the state, has an awesome burger & dog greasy spoon kinda joint, along with an almost 1950's breakfast diner type place where the waitresses all call you hon & sweetheart, we have a handful of bars which also kind of serve as litmus tests for how bad your night of drinking was, & more all with a community of less than 6k year round residents. We also have a university which balloons the population normally from time to time. Furthermore rent & houses are cheap af. I pay $600/mo for a nice, small ish, 2 bedroom. My parent's bought their 3500sqft very nice house for $90k 15mins from town.
The country really isn't a bad place to go, especially if you have a friend to introduce you!
@ TouchMyCatEars, same
@ TouchMyCatEars, as someone who lives in South GA I would recommend TN as a nice place. Conservative and if you don't go to far out in the woods not to backwards lol
@ TouchMyCatEars, Not sure I could deal with the naked old people, personally 😂
@ TouchMyCatEars, don't waste any more of your time with him is my advice. You can be using that time to find someone to truly appreciate and love you rather than waste it. If you want to get out of Florida go for that too! Life is short
If you guys can work it out, great, but not saying he loves you after 3 years is a red flag imo
@PacificaPelican, I want a change. My plan was to leave way before now but then I met my ex-husband and he wanted to stay so we did. After that was over I was gonna leave again, then I met this new guy. He moved down from Mass and fvcking loves it here. So I stayed again. When do I finally get to enjoy living somewhere, ya know?
@Arnold Dogsled , I never thought I had a certain type but you might be right and just never realized it
@SimonPetrikov, good for them! If things don't work for me then it's just another learning experience I guess.
@Hot Coffee, I've heard NC was nice but SC isn't..
@Sven and Otar, wow, that sounds amazing! There any good coffee shops there? Doesn't have to be big chain shops, I like the small ones that actually make good tasting coffee drinks.
@The Lifeguard, it does take some getting used to. We did get a lot of younger people there during the summer time too tho.
@ TouchMyCatEars, Ooh got some eye candy sometimes 👀
@Mantis Tobaggan, :( he wrote it once, in a card he bought for me. Idk if that counts because he didn't actually say it. I just wanted to hear it.
@The Lifeguard, we had a body builder in there once with his GF but she was huge like him and it was hard to look at. We gay and lesbian couples on weekends who would dress up, strut around and dance. Their parties were always fun to watch but if things got too freaky they would have to rent a room.
@ TouchMyCatEars, I always went by that place and had no idea what went on for so long 😂
@ TouchMyCatEars, step one: move out of florida
Step two: ????
Step three: profit
@yadonegoofed, genius plan!
@The Lifeguard, they also have swingers parties there bro
@ TouchMyCatEars, Damn I gotta go back there sometime 😂
@ TouchMyCatEars, I would agree with that assessment. I really like the NC coast
@ TouchMyCatEars, as a Floridian there is nothing here for us
@Depressed Cashier, there's so many goddamn people here, I'm suffocating.
@ TouchMyCatEars, yup! Michelle's Cafe, has exhibits for local artists every week that you can usually purchase their work. From spoon sculptures to jr high art projects. One of my best friends is a barista there
@Sven and Otar, that is the exact kind of place I would love to be hanging out at all day!
@ TouchMyCatEars, I think I even have a friend you'd bond with incredibly well and she hangs out there all the time. She's a super lovey dovey witch which is kinda funny that her and I (a devout catholic outside of sex n'shtuff) are as close as we are, but I think you two would click very well. She came here from Birmingham Alabama to have a change of pace, get away from a rough relationship, and just get a fresh start in a pretty countryside town
@ TouchMyCatEars, yeah I feel that. I had a similar reason for leaving Florida but later decided I liked it better than other places I was living so I decided to move back. That same thing might happen to you as well but until you leave and discover some new places you will probably feel trapped by this place, or by the people who live here depending on who you associate it with. So if you really want to leave then I encourage you to do so. Living somewhere new is a great experience. From your story you really seem to sacrifice a lot for the people you care about, and just the fact that you continue to put effort in replying to all these comments on this thread shows you're really considerate to others so I'm sure you'll make great new friends wherever you go. Oh and don't feel guilty about leaving if there are still people here like friends or family who will miss you. I may or may not have shed a tear on the way to the airport the first time I moved away out of feeling guilty for
@ TouchMyCatEars, possibly hurting some people who were close to me by leaving 😅. But I later learned that gaining new experiences helped me to become a more interesting person so I was able to contribute more to those relationships when I visited or moved back
@ TouchMyCatEars, Oklahoma has some places..speaking for a friend that gives many cuddles and support.
@ TouchMyCatEars, have you looked into narcisstic relationships? Maybe you seek a narcissist due to being an empathetic person. Think about therapy- you’ll find the flaws early in dating so you don’t get sucked into a one way relationship
*patiently waits for Natural Sarcasm*
@seeUpee, hello neighbor
Keep being awesome, and going to cons and such sexy, and you'll find someone. We all know you will.
@ThePandaPool , I’m trying my best but lust keeps butting in im so sorry everyone
Sexy hang in there man, you can’t hurry love, no you just got to wait. Love don’t come easy, it’s a game of give and take
@megamanx181x, some times you gotta throw out a few lines
Ahh, Tyler you ok bro?
Sexy?! When did you get here?
@That one lurker, the truth is , Tyler has always been Sexy humunc
This hits a little too close
Maybe if i wasn't a shít human being and got the help i needed... nah.
I will love all of you :) I'm so lonely I'll love everyone
Me: *Literally only works and shuts in my room when im home, never going out with friends, never meeting new people or hardly interacting with family or friends, and smokes wayyy to much weed*
Also me: "nOboDy WilL eVeR loVe mE"
@moneyeatnoodles, kinda like me, I don't smoke tho....
....but I will love you
i feel u
I know it sounds like bragging, but I have the opposite problem. I’m a very physically attractive aromatic asexual. I just want to be a crazy cat lady in peace with my friends and my family. I don’t really want a partner.
*stay* in love with me...
@sexy homunculus, you okay?
U know how they say “it’s better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all” yea that’s bullshït
Thought these posts were from Tyler for a second