I don’t know how to help my Suicidal friend but oh well at least I know the quadratic formula.
@Midnite St0rm, if you're being serious, the most important thing is listening. Not trying to give advice, and DEFINITELY not saying "it will all get better" or "I understand you" - they'll feel seriously misunderstood. Listen to them, and tell them that you'll always be there for them. And if they suddenly seem happy and aloof after being very suicidal, get help - that person just decided to take comfort in actually killing themselves. Always reach out for help, especially if the situation is bad, even if the person doesn't want it. And it's also a myth that people who talk about suicide wouldn't really kill themselves, the opposite is the case - they try to signalise that something is wrong. If it gets bad, call the police or an ambulance and don't leave their side. Remove sharp objects and things like pills and poisonous stuff. Sorry, again, don't know if you're serious, but I guess it's good to know anyway ...
@A pet named Steve, I regret to inform you that I am serious but I think I’m going to admit him to a mental hospital against his will. He’s given himself a time limit. He’s taking one photo a day with his new Polaroid and after 100 he’s going to end it all. At least that’s his plan. I’m trying to help for sure, and I can’t just say “it’ll all get better” because sometimes it doesn’t but I just try to listen and help as much as I can. We live in different towns now so I can only do so much. But yeah, mental hospital admission against his will is on my emergency list, if I can’t help him enough (which is sadly likely). My heart hurts for him honestly because he’s gay and his Latino-Christian parents don’t agree with it. They don’t hate him but they just don’t accept who he is. The issue is that he has this idea in his head that people are selfish and that they don’t help each other for the other persons good, but because it makes us feel better about ourselves (which is not true)
@A pet named Steve, and basically I can’t help him much because he thinks I’m just helping him for my own good, even though I’m like his only friend at the moment.
@Midnite St0rm, bad situation. I agree, you need to get him professional help as soon as possible. He won't like it, and he will probably be mad at you - but it really is for his own good. Make sure he knows that he isn't crazy or that he's not a weirdo, but that he is ill. Like a flu or a stomach ache, we don't chose to get depressed / anxious / suicidal, it just happens because our body and our hormones mess up. I would inform either his parents (you can judge better than me if that's a good idea or not) or the police that you think he is at risk of killing himself. Professional like the police usually get calls like this on a regular basis and know what to do. And one more thing: if he does kill himself, god beware, it is not your fault. Even if you didn't do anything to prevent it, it's not your fault. Even if he writes it in his letter that it is your fault, it's not. It's hard to remember that, but it is the truth.
@Midnite St0rm, you should get help for him especially because he set himself a time limit. That means he probably has a suicide plan, and people with a real plan are more likely to go through with it. I really hope he gets better. Life is tough, and I, for some parts, know how he feels. It feels like all hope is lost, and there is nothing in life that is even remotely rewarding or exciting - it's like carrying a heavy burden on your shoulders that's slowly crushing you. If a psychologist or psychiatrist subscribes him antidepressants, be there for him as well, for they are known to sometimes cause even worse depression and suicidal thoughts - that's how my cousin lost her life. It's usually the worst during the first 2-5 weeks, but it differs from person to person and from antidepressant to antidepressant.
@A pet named Steve, I am determined to ensure that he doesn’t because he’s one of my only friends as well. (I have a good few but...) I probably will tell his parents. Again they may not accept him but they don’t hate him and they would be devastated if he killed himself. And so I think I’ll tell them to let them know and probably stick him in the psych ward. I’ve dropped little hints so far suggesting he admit himself and that it’s not the “looney bin” and that it’s just like any regular hospital and that more people do it than you think (hell my grandma was in one for the same reasons and it helped). So I don’t know for the moment. Today is only his day four or five. But I don’t wanna wait till the end. He refuses to take antidepressants too which is odd. I don’t care if he likes it or not, I want him to get better cause I miss the times when he was happy for one an because no one wants to see Their friend upset. Obviously I’m not doing this for me, but for him. Thanks for the help.
@A pet named Steve, he does feel hopeless. Some days he doesn’t do anything but lay in bed. He claims his depression is mild (bullshjt) and I think e does have a plan which seriously scares me. He hasn’t started Uni or college yet so doesn’t know what it’s like to pursue what you love. I’m just hoping I can get him to last long enough for him to get there in September and that it will help. I’m super sorry to hear about your cousin, I really am. I’ve never lost anybody to suicide fortunately but I don’t want to be someone that did.
@Midnite St0rm, it's a long time until September... Perhaps it's better to take action beforehand. You never know if he will wait until his last photograph. When depressed, there sometimes are days that are bad, days that are worse and days where you're on the brink of suicide. There have been days where I thought that I'd never have a reason to kill myself and there have been days shortly after where I cut my arms bloody and wanted to overdose on pills. I'm not saying this so you feel sorry for me - you really don't have to, don't worry haha - but to tell you that depression is a bjtch, and it takes your free will from you. Basically, if your friend has one of the very bad days, he could kill himself no matter how close he is to his limit's end. I'm saying this because I know from experience that waiting too long can cause regret. But I am glad to see that he has such a good friend like you - even if he doesn't show it or sometimes doesn't see it himself, it can mean the world to him.
@Midnite St0rm, again, I hope that all works out and that he gets better. It's a tough fight, but a fight worth fighting. Sorry if I've been rambling too much, it's almost 3am and I tend to talk a lot when I'm tired haha. One more thing though, don't let the whole situation drag you down all too much. It's good to worry, but you shouldn't destroy yourself over it, if that makes any sense (again, sorry - very tired). I wish you two the best.
@Midnite St0rm, ah I just remembered something! You said your friend doesn't want to take antidepressants. Some people fear that the antidepressants change their personalities, or that they cause a "fake happiness". But they really just try and fix your hormones so that you can feel normally happy, like you would without depression. It's like flu medicine - it doesn't make you "fake healthy", but simply helps to remove all the bad stuff so that your body functions normally.
@A pet named Steve, thanks again for your help. I still feel sorry for you even though you told me not to. I’m not perfect in the head either but I don’t have depression. I know you said don’t blame yourself but I have OCD (actual OCD not internet OCD) and so if he were to end his own life god forbid I would have constant panic attacks over it. To me though that’s not an issue, it’s his health that’s more important. I’m glad you think I’m a good friend because I worry I don’t do enough. And he’s more so afraid of the side effects of antidepressants like the whole infertility thing. Anyways, good talk. Sleep well.
@Midnite St0rm, idk if pysch ward is thw best choice. Or at least try not using those words. This is coming from somone who went down the same path. And definitely tell his parents if you know they care that much. It could help the situation. But its delicate because you dont want them to trigger him more and accelerate his plan.
@Midnite St0rm, Value my opinion how you'd like, but take note if your friend has mentioned a specific aversion to a mental institution of sorts. Similar to antidepressants, an institution can sometimes strengthen the wish to commit suicide. Granted, institutions help a lot more people than they discourage, but just thought I would let you know. He might be opposed to them, but if this scenario was likely, he would have mentioned it often and passionately. Even so, a mental institution is definitely preferable to suicide, despite his will, but if presents these signs, don't jump the gun too early on sending in an institution. Use your gut. My prayers go out to you and your friend.
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You have a basic understanding of biology and didnt pay attention too closely during percentages in math. Also, im pretty sure of this tax stuff is covered in home economics.
@a shiny haunter, here's the thing, home economics is not a common class. I never took it, or even heard about it in high school. There was no similar option to it either.
@a shiny haunter, agreed, however the learning curve for taxes is rocky. If you have a highschool education, you can figure out, well, enough. Anything more complex takes more study.
@a shiny haunter, taxes were never covered in my home economics class.
Bitc* I teach and the only reason kids know this is because of these meme. If they taught taxes they wouldn't learn it anymore than anything else. Just look it up online if you care. Just like anything else.
Maybe your parents should teach you something.
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My work here is done.
There should be better education in how taxes are paid, as in how to pay them and who they are paid to and the means in which to ensure such.
At the same time, I’m certain mortgages and taxes (as a math issue) are taught through percentages and interest rate skills.