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@idubbbz, Well, as it stands right now, yes and no. We hooked up (didn't bang tho) about a week after we really met. Since then she's been a little weird, we haven't done anything more than hold hands in person. But there's definitely been some sexting, some exchanging of pics along the way. Been a little over a month now and I asked her what she thought was going on between us. I told her that I wanted more than friendship but she said that she liked things the way they are. I know she still wants me, at least some large part of her does. But her life is too busy to talk about a commitment, which I wasn't asking for. I just wanted to know if we could be friends with benedicts or something that goes a little beyond what's going on right now. So I told her if that's how she feels that it wouldn't be a good idea to spend so much time together (because we've been hanging out every day for hours at a time).
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@idubbbz, So yeah, she's probably a little mad at me right about now. But I'm tired of her pulling me in over the phone just to push me away in person. So I'm stopping myself from obsessing over her and letting it continue to interfere with my schoolwork and I think this is gonna be good for the both of us. Which is a tiny bit difficult because I've honestly never felt this way about a girl before in my whole lonely life. And I really hope this is gonna be a wake up call to her that if she can't recognize how well we get along and just really click together that she's gonna lose it all. After the things I've seen and the things we've done, it'd be so hard to look at her as just a friend, even though she's a great girl. We genuinely care about each other, I try to help her out with her problems and support her and she takes notes for me in class. She gave me a fidget spinner because I have severe ADHD. And she fills me with a lust stronger than anything I've felt before.
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@idubbbz, Well, after I told her that if she's not ready to go fully into something romantic, I got hit with 2 days of the silent treatment. But I saw her today, asked if she was upset and she told me no, and she thought I was upset with her. I just wasn't gonna double message to get left on read is all. But we went, ordered something to eat together and then we split up, she went to go eat with her friend. Which usually I'd be invited to, but today I wasn't, even if she did ask, I'd decline. I know I have to ghost her a little harder than that to make her see and make her reconsider. But it's difficult when I told her that I still want to talk and hang out with her. Either way tho, I was never worried, I knew that even after that I could just come back in and pick up where we left off. But for now, I'm not saying anything flirty to her, that's her move. And if it comes over the phone, I'll tell her straight up that I'm not getting into it like that again, do it in person.
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@idubbbz, I don't mean entirely abandon her because I couldn't do that. I care too much about her. But I just want her to want me (the way I want her). I figure if there's a little distance now then she'll have time to collect her thoughts and she'll start to miss having me around all the time. And I've been trying for this girl, we set boundaries off the bat, we're making compromises for each other, my first healthy (budding) relationship. I don't really feel friendzoned or anything because I know she has feelings for me. I have full confidence in that, conversation got steamy just last Friday. I just don't understand why she's reluctant to do anything in person even without a commitment. I mean if she wanted to keep her options open, why not have some fun with who she's talking to now? That's something I'm gonna have to look into, but I don't want to press her hard on that and stress her out about it.
Girl I recently started dating told me she posts porn of herself on Tumblr. I feel less powerful to not have to ask for nudes ๐