Speaking of this, any of y’all have tips on getting out any and all intimate thoughts you had for someone? I’m going through trying to let go of my first crush, who is now become a total jerk (replace jerk with a word that starts with a b)
@The Real Grim Reaper, hit the gym for a month or two, then hoe around for another month or two. Its got me through my last 2 breakups with only minimal mental damage. 50% of the time it works every time.
@robee, we weren’t dating, as I was too scared to ask her out, and something clicked in her skull causing her to go from being nice to full blown [REDACTED]. And the thing is, I don’t know if it was something I did, if someone else did something, or if I was just an idiot and didn’t see the red flags. So now I feel empty because she was pretty much the first person I began fantasizing about. Sorry for the long shpeel, but thanks for the advice.
@The Real Grim Reaper, hey man we've all been there. I can't tell you how many red flags I've been willfully ignorant of because i was attracted to someone. In a few weeks I'm sure you'll be asking yourself why you were even into her to begin with
@The Real Grim Reaper, see. With these kinds of things, I trust in one thing and one thing only. Communication.
Just ask. That’s it. Literally just ask.
Kid (only assuming) all, I can really say to you is “If you let your mind rationalize everything, you’ll get nothing done”
Don’t go out regretting.
Go tell her how you feel. (Like currently.) tell her you’re concerned (if you are).
Could be really helpful for her as well. Sometimes self-reflection begins from the outside and you could be the push that allows her to become a better person.
But all in all. You don’t want to be racking up “what ifs” because a life full of regrets isn’t a life. Its you looking back, unable to move forward.
But don’t take me too seriously. I’m 21. Sleep deprived and stil don’t know jack shjt about life.
@The Real Grim Reaper, I feel for you my guy. I've had a thing for this girl for a few years now, but I've never had the balls to ask her out. That and she's been dating this mutual friend for some 2 years now so I'm not about to get caught up in that. I havent been able to forget about her either, but I'm sure I'll get over her eventually, and I'm 100% sure you'll get over your love too. I'm kinda hoping I'll just meet someone that'll make me forget about her, and maybe you'll be lucky and have the same happen. Hopefully sooner rather than later for the sake of our mental states
@Rodestarr, oh she already knows I had a crush on her, cause a) I wasn’t very good at keeping it a secret and b) the other guys in my section (I’m in marching band and so was she) didn’t take me seriously (or probably just straight up didn’t like me that much) and didn’t really know to keep it low key and told others.
And just like a storm trooper, I keep missing.
Yup. I hate that I relate to this so much.