There are two men in my house painting the walls. My dad called me and asked me to ask them if they want coffee. My anxiety made me pace in my room for 15 minutes while listening to their voices instead. Why is humaning so scary?
@A pet named Steve, update: I made coffee and only almost had a panic attack. Back in my room now for my FP meme medicine
@A pet named Steve, you did it though, so that's the important part.
@A pet named Steve, proud of you :]
@A pet named Steve, yay, another step towards conquering your social anxiety!
@A pet named Steve, humaning is scary because some humans are born without the proper connections/signals to be comfortable in modern society, it was very useful back when humans lived in clans/tribes
@A pet named Steve, you know what helped my ex with this problem? Concerts, it was nearly impossible for her to go but once the music and starts and you know everyone is focused on the musician, it made her felt a little better, it took a while and it was rough but she loves concerts now and still hates people small winning
@DrSin, yeah, concerts work magic. It probably helps that all people there like the same thing/artist.
@A pet named Steve, like if could see powerwolf in their home town I would take you because that experience would be dope, and if you didn’t go I would go and send you concert footage so you would be jealous, I really really wanna see them it hurts me
@DrSin, I really hope they'll tour the world again so that you and everyone else can see them
@A pet named Steve, if that ain't some true shiz, nothing is
@A pet named Steve, proud of you. In the end, it’s all about little steps toward conquest over your fears.
I have a horrible phobia of bees, wasps, and spiders. It used to be so bad that as a kid I’d just freeze, break down, and cry as soon as I saw one close to me.
What I started to do to get over it was hype myself up, go outside, and find a bee and just follow it around the yard. These days, while I’m still a bit of a wimp internally around them and would say I’m more comfortable being in a fist fight than having one in my comfort zone, I’m able to be calm and collected around them externally and internally I know I can beat the fear I have.
So even if your social anxiety never really goes away, you can be sure that, with time, effort, and a little exposure therapy, you’ll be able to conquer it:)
@Sven and Otar, that's very reassuring to know that it'll get better. Thank you.
I too used to be afraid of bees and wasps, but now I like them a lot. Only spiders I cannot handle haha. But yeah, the more I interacted with bees and such, the less afraid I was of them.
@A pet named Steve, exposure therapy, I’ve found, is probably one of the most effective ways to get over most hangups in my life. Feel free to take it slow too, small steps like getting that coffee, building up the courage to ask a front desk person for directions, giving an order to your waiter yourself, are all good ways to get started down that path.
I used to have mild social anxiety, I grew up moving from place to place and kept getting separated from friends I had just made, so my only consistent friend was my younger brother Steve. So while my experiences might not be directly parallel to yours in intensity, I do know where you’re coming from. Biggest things to remember are that mistakes happen, most of the time people don’t notice or forget small awkward moments as soon as they’re over, and generally people aren’t looking to make you feel like a dumb-dumb
@A pet named Steve, try drinking the coffee, it’ll help
@A pet named Steve, I'm not honestly sure if you're joking or not. If not, I'm sorry. I've always been a healthy mix of both introvert and extrovert so people who are scared of casual conversations confuses me
@Sven and Otar, so you were more or less forced to talk to new people all the time. And yeah, it's sometimes difficult to remember that not everyone is out to embarrass you and that they're normal people like yourself. You always manage to make me feel more secure haha. Thank you, I greatly appreciate that.
@theshadosnipe, I'm always amazed at people who talk to strangers so naturally haha. Guess it's different for everyone
@A pet named Steve, I feel it’s honestly a power only so many people have “ being able to walk up a stranger and talk to them and hold a conversation” I use to be a manager at work, so it became a strong suit to be able to do that when hiring people, you learn it’s not so bad but it takes practice
@A pet named Steve, for me the problem was that I couldn’t really relate to anybody anymore. They’d all be talking about things that happened a few years back and I couldn’t contribute to that conversation. I was also a nerd, not particularly good at sports, liked to sing/dance/be artsy, was very into my faith (and therefore didn’t participate in certain practices), and never graphically fantasized about women and felt extremely uncomfortable when other guys did, etc. all of that made me a social anathema for a long time.
It wasn’t until university that I found out I was actually desirable and likable to others by luck.
In the end my dear Steve-o, I’m just doin’ my piece to make the world a better place:)
@A pet named Steve, So I had an ex that used to get messed up all the time. She was always worried about being found out that she had a problem. In order to avoid this, she would answer the door naked. They’d be so occupied with the “WHY!?” They wouldn’t ask the other questions. Don’t do this. Girl was an addict and a dumbass. Just wanted to share this story.
@Have An Upvote, oh wow... I mean at least it worked. Though I'm sure there are many other, better methods to avoid questions. May I ask what exactly she was trying to hide? Most people are very accepting of issues, but I understand if she was scared of people finding out. And don't worry, I'm too self conscious of my body to open the door naked. It's difficult enough with clothes on already.
@A pet named Steve, her method of thinking was that they’d be too distracted by the nudity and wouldn’t realize she was high as hell.
*inserts cat in the hat slowly walking up meme*
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