Unpopular opinion: I don't like the term friend zone because it implies that it is someone's (usually the woman's) fault. Just because you like someone doesn't mean they have to like you back. To be angry at someone for not liking you back is childish and will get you nowhere. You're not 'trapped in the friend zone' you chose to keep pursing a person that you know has no feelings for you. Move on with your life and find someone who like you that way. Rant over.
@a klondike bar, I agree with everything you just said. Most people won't figure this out until they actually become adults.
@a klondike bar, I'm ashamed of what I would do for you...
@a klondike bar, I agree, but I don't think that's necessarily an unpopular opinion anymore. Thankfully, people have begun to call out this kind of behavior.
@a klondike bar, unfortunately that's not how the situation is most of the time. The friend zone is when you give mixed signals to someone so that they continue to shower you in attention. Basically it's used by attention whores who will never just say "I don't want to date you, let's be friends instead" until you say those words specifically a person in love won't stop trying. It hurts to watch because even if someone knows they're in the friend zone they can't stop loving the other person until that person says "I don't love you like that" rant over
@a klondike bar, I only used the term "friend zone" when a guy is led on by a girl because she's not sure how she feels instead of just telling the truth. Then when the guy says "hey I like you, and I'm getting this vibe that you feel the same way." Then to save herself from the situation she brought upon herself, she says she just wants to be friends. I know that's very specific, but that's the only time I will say a guy has been "friend zoned"
@a klondike bar, I'd agree but I found this qoute that summed it up. "The friendzone is like you going to a job interview and not getting the job. But the manager calls you everyday to complain about how sh!tty the person she hired is". I'd agree with you but it's the constant "if only I found a nice guy" type conversations didn't exsist
@TheCrimsonFckr, I'd much rather have a girl straight up tell me the truth and say "I don't like you that way, lets be friends" than have her do this. I took a girl on a date once, she didn't think of it as a date till the actual food came and I paid. Then she continued to make it seem like she was into me. I ended up asking her if we could do it again since we both seemed to have fun. She said yes, she'd like that. She then went around telling MY friends she thought I was a bit weird (not exactly wrong but come on now) and she never had the guts to even tell me anything of this herself. I had to hear it from my bestfriend cause he didn't want me to look like an idiot. A few weeks later she asked my sister why I never asked her on a second date and got mad at me for not continuing to talk to her like I did on the date. (We didn't talk much beforehand so) Looking back it was probably a mistake but whatever.
@a klondike bar, Also, just because you do something nice for someone, doesn't mean the are obligated to fvck you. Grow up. You should do nice things for people for the sake of not being an ass, not to get laid.
@TheCrimsonFckr, key point here is that the friend zoned person must make their feelings known otherwise the friend zoner might actually be clueless because of personality differences. Like one persons flirt is another persons how they talk to their dad (don't make that creepy pervs)
@a klondike bar, the "friend zone" is when they know you like them and that you have made implications that you do or have said so, but dont have the decency to say they dont like you in that way so that you can move on. Yes the guy can just give up and try with another girl. But lets be honest, what guy/girl is going to give up on someone that have lots of feelings for just out of nowhere?
@TheCrimsonFckr, See it's not always as simple as that telling people straight up you don't have feelings for them in that manner. I did that in high school and said I just wanted to stay friends and suddenly I was a horrible person. But if you stop talking to them to prevent "mixed signals", you're suddenly a b!tch. So it can be a lose-lose situation.
@UndeadNavyGirl, anyone that calls you a horrible person for being honest is a waste of your space. It is ALWAYS that simple, it's better to shoot someone down immediately than to give them mixed signals making them confused. I'm going through this kind of situation right now and I'm getting close to the point of just saying "fvck it" and not being anything more than acquaintances in the same band
@TheCrimsonFckr, thank you for saying that, that is 100% true
@TheCrimsonFckr, the thing is, some girls won't usually flat out say "I don't want to date you," not because she wants to lead him on, but because she doesn't want to be presumptuous. It can be rude to assume everything, even if it seems like one, is a date. They might honestly think that you're both mutual on being friends. Or, hell, they might be trying to find the right time to say it, but have no idea when the right time would be.
Do some girls lead guys on? Yes, of course, just as some guys lead girls on. But that doesn't mean every girl is some villian bent on using you.
@a klondike bar, hence why she said "boy" and not "man"
@a klondike bar, I am one who felt 'friendzoned' by a good friend of mine. I ruined it by really blowing the situation out of proportion, but there is a quote that helped me realize my error in thinking:
“Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no.”
At this point I would actually want to be in the 'friendzone' because, for me, the alternative of not being her friend at all feels and is MUCH worse.
You know we reserve a special place in hell for you
@DeviIs Advocate, the friend is already in it
@DeviIs Advocate, shhh don't tell them
@ThePrinceofDarkness, but it's fun to fvck with their already fragile mind
This hurts more than opening my paycheck
But I do this sometimes.... bring my friends out for dinner and stuff to shoe I care. No ulterior motives, just to be a good friend.
Just got to be yourself and if they aren't having it, then it sucks for them, not you
The Friend zone is where you keep your spare back up boyfriend in case you get desperate someday
"This boy bought me flowers and took me to dinner, looks like I'm now entitled to love him because he paid something for me"
I read this as bat boy
I hope you die.